The Robbers Gave Me Two Options, Either My Son Rape Me or My Husband’s Hands Chopped Off

It was the most important test of my life and from that time, I still have nightmares. The group leader stopped and checked me out, then asked me if i like my husband? i’ve got said yes to him. He then asked if I had really loved my first son? I answered yes sir.

He asked me to decide on between these two options “It would be either my eldest son sleeps with me or the 2 arms of my husband chopped off.” I was very frightened and didn’t know what to mention or what to say, this is often my story, and it hunts me till these days as my son, too, isn’t no longer able to look in my eyes.

My husband may be a civil servant and i am a really good tailor at what I do. I’ve got my shop near my building, and there is a space in my building that I’ve converted to my home base. TAP HERE TO CONTINUE READING

During the time of the incident my husband was doing this project. There was an unlimited amount of cash at his disposal to incline on the lot the subsequent day to workers. He decided to return home with the cash since the subsequent day was Saturday, in order that he can leave on Saturday morning as early as possible.

It was a Friday evening and that we just had our dinner finished. My first son, husband and i were still within the living-room, while the remainder had gone to bed once we heard a play the doorway. it had been just some minutes to 9 pm and that i wondered who was visiting knock at that point of day. Normally I avoid taking care of my customers a day at 8 pm. My son had gone to work out who was at the gate. Though We figured that it had been one of the neighbors who needed something and couldn’t wait, well it wasn’t. They were robbers in arms.

Next thing we saw was a pistol with an escort on our son’s head. They were five in number, and every one were armed. They asked us to quietly lie down and that we did. i used to be so afraid because I saw this in movies and that i understand how it’s visiting end. They ‘d shoot us, and ultimately kill us. So i assumed in my head, as I prayed quietly. My husband never told me of keeping any money home because even unintentionally, he didn’t want me to whisper about the cash to anyone. How they knew about the money continues to surprise my husband until this moment.

They were asking my husband where the cash was and he was playing dumb. He claimed to not know what they talked about, and asked what money was there? This was when the one who appeared to be guilty went for our last daughter and asked my husband to carefully choose his next words. Then again, he asked where the cash was? Silently my husband told them he would bring the cash.

He was followed by another man, and that they visited our room where he took the cash out and gave it to them in a very small black bag. When the boss got the cash, He asked why he wanted my husband to play along with his intelligence? He said he’d have us purnished for it.

First he said we’re expected to deliberate and choose who’ll die. I was crying, and begging him. By this point we were lying within the middle of the living-room and that we were surrounded by all. He then told me to return closer after much begging. The other ones kicked me on my back to induce near their boss and be quick on that. once I crawled to where he was, he whispered “you love your husband” to me then? I said yes. He asked “what about your son” again? I said yes also love him. He gave me a life’s shocking question, now when he said, choose one or all will die.

I checked out my husband, then I checked out my son. My daughter was too young and that i thought if dying was a far better option. Within this short time I had to form my choice, my whole life flashed right before my eyes. Guess I didn’t know what i used to be doing but I allow my son make love me to save my husband from any physical injury and also the whole family.

They made my son to take off all that he had on and that i also did the same. They made it compulsory for my kids and my husband to look us while performing. My son was beaten before succumbing to the act, He was crying, even as he was. He was flogged with every stroke and watched them leave once they were satisfied.

That day, they didn’t touch anyone. Physically we were all very ok but not emotionally because my son got wounded in his heart. He couldn’t have a look at me and that i also felt very ashamed of myself as we did what we didn’t want. My husband couldn’t speak to him, he didn’t want to speak or be with anybody. Because he’s still a child, he blames his father for not doing what’s needed and that we paid the price. This thing hit me, once a happy family to a very sad one.

My son is mad at me and his father, and my husband too is acting funny towards me as if I had a far better option and didn’t take it. it has been nearly 6 months since that happened but my home hasn’t yet recovered from it. i’m so helpless at once especially as this affects my son a lot. And my husband wouldn’t touch me as if I were carrying some form of infection, or something.

Maybe I made the wrong choice. I should have made or opt for the opposite option then my husband would appreciate my effort. If you were put in this situation what will you do?

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205 Comments

  1. Your decision is right and balance in such a situation. You have committed no abomination since is out of your intention.

  2. I think you should ask for death ,you should have told them to kill you instead.the trauma won’t leave your heart forever and your children have actually experience what has never happened before.

    • Guy try to think deep b/4 anything comment.

      • I want to tell you something serious about the days we are in now it is quite different from the other days you knew l only advice you to repent and put in mind that this world is not your home if you want Eternal life

        • I’m sure God will help you sis to recover from that trauma, for he knew it all even the method you used. He will see you through.

          • It hurts, you need a family counselor who will not judge but help you heal after a pastor has prayed for restoration prayers
            It hurts, you need a family counselor who will not judge but help you heal after a pastor has prayed for restoration prayers

            Professional counselor would walk alongside your journey of healing

          • Orakwube Fredrick
            Orakwube Fredrick

            Very painful.thats an abomination, but it’s nobody’s fault.all of you needs counselling and prayers in order to appease God for such a grave sin committed against him.and then all should try as possible to keep certain things as secrets as regards to whatever that comes out from it later.spiritual strength is needed (your Bible, the rosary.visitation to the blessed sacrament) will help alot.this is general family burden.as for your complain of not touching you,such is not needed now.you people should reconcile with God first.God will communicate with you people.the devil is trying to gain ground.

        • God bless you @merry
          You are absolutely correct. We are certainly the very last generation

          • Samuel Chijioke
            Samuel Chijioke

            Issues more severed have been solved in Dominion City Church.
            Please look for a nearby DC church for an immediate help.
            Your family will thank me later

          • Take care of yourself

        • Wetin this one dey talkπŸ˜‘

          • Prince Adeyinka
            Prince Adeyinka

            Very hard decision to take,the point is even if u had chosen the other option,there is still possibility that all of you would be wiped off.My dear,put yourself together and work on your son by assuring him nothing happened,u only did that to save the entire family.God be with u

    • If it was you, could you prefer to die????

      • Go for cansulling n pray God has it all

      • Lady you didn’t commit any sin. Your next line of action is to make sure your son doesn’t commit suicide as a result of remorseness. The reactions of both you and your husband towards your son matter most now. You paid the price to save your son’s and husband’s lives, don’t allow the death which have paid price for to still creep in and claim the life of your son and husband afterwards.

    • Would you HV asked for death??

      • Which death. You have never had the experience Yes I had an experience. That is not a sin because you were forced to do it. So God does not condemn anybody for that. That was the right decision to save the whole family. Pray and move on. If your husband can reach me I will counsel him. It was one of those conditions you don’t have control over .If they chopped off your husbands hand will he like it.

      • Your husband is inhumane to be behaving funny. He caused the whole stuff and you still went ahead to safe him from physical disability. May be you would have chosen the other option? Then, he will know how far. He’d ungrateful! God will wipe your tears for He sees your heart.

    • You don't know anything
      You don't know anything

      All Shall be Well…..just continue praying God knows what He is doing

    • Hmmm, she have no sin to bear, just trying and move on with prayers. You're the savior of the house. Why did you think she would've ask for death?
      Hmmm, she have no sin to bear, just trying and move on with prayers. You're the savior of the house. Why did you think she would've ask for death?

      May God have mercy on us. All you need is God. But your family suppose to sorry for your pain and embrace you not dispensing or have create issue. May God brings your family back.

    • Rev. Isaac Toluwa Agbelay
      Rev. Isaac Toluwa Agbelay

      I pity this family a lot, precisely the woman & his son.
      This case is an unprecedented attack upon the family. The family should see it as an attack from Satan to destroy the peaceful family. Bible says that ” the thief cometh, but for to steal, and to kill , to destroy.”
      The thieves intend to destroy their well-organised family, they should not be compromised with the devil to scatter their home. They should leave the matter to God to handle.
      Prayer will settle the matter if the woman can pray to God. We that read this article should pray for the family.
      We don’t need to judge anybody in that family, let believe that it is the devil plan.
      The family should come together, & allow the Almighty God to intervene

    • You are crazy

    • Easy to say!!! Did she mention 3 option or 2 and again all what they need in the family is consolation and madam you did the right thing everyone should do like nothing happened and all the family will get over it please show them all people options shit happens

    • How easy do you think it is, to ask for death? May God restore the family and heal their wounds.

  3. She should have appealed to the robber to have sex with her,maybe they would have got excited instead of a son in presence of daddy abd daughter.that was too much

    • Is this what you really think would be right I think you should think like a Christian now don’t you see that God is punishing us for the sins we commit repeatedly l really think it’s time for you to repent my dear brother and sister because he’s warth and anger is more than you know

    • U think it's easy to negotiate with someone with a guy? My guy pls have sense
      U think it's easy to negotiate with someone with a guy? My guy pls have sense

      Good

      • May Allah Have Mercy on them all. It’s really a difficult decision to would have taken but but, she would have asked the robbers contention discourse first with her husband. If not accepted such openiin,
        1. Either to have asked them rspe her or accept as she did. That word have been the final openion.
        But this it has happened now . The the thing now is to ask for forgiveness.

        • What happened was gruesome,for real. I really don’t know what to say, but l just hope you guys, finds a way, to get over it and move on. I surely hope that, those sick morons,who did that to you, get a punishment they deserve. It has to be agonizing and excruciating.

        • Allah can’t have mercy because allah is a different God who can not speak neither help

          • @Dan Calus, May the Almighty God forgives you & sees you out of your dark path.
            To the story, may God restore & strengthen the family, Allahumo-aamiin πŸ™πŸŒΉ

    • So you think it’s easy to negotiate with someone with a gun? Abeg my guy have sense

      • How can that boy obtain an erection in the midst of that confusion and fear? An erection is the function of the brain and heart. The son is not normal and as such detached from the situation or the story is fake,

        • I believe with u brother, am also wondering how the boy’s penis erected out of that fear and worrying situation!!!! The story may be fakeπŸ€”πŸ€”

        • Yes I had an experience. That is not a sin because you were forced to do it. So God does not condemn anybody for that. That was the right decision to save the whole family. Pray and move on. If your husband can reach me I will counsel him. It was one of those conditions you don’t have control over .If they chopped off your husbands hand will he like it.

      • GOTAU FELIX DUNGBISSA
        GOTAU FELIX DUNGBISSA

        I quite traumatized, ur husband should appreciate your ability to serve the whole family not paying you the other way round. This bastards are devilish incline, hence u can’t negotiate with them. They only do what the devil asked them to do. Sis, the decision u made was life saving one. Don’t regret it,for it wasn’t intentional. Jesus still loves πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰ UUU…

    • The rubbers choice for you, never decided to rubber or try to bring another suggestion to rubbers or maybe you want all the family to went off. No one have options to rubbers okay.
      The rubbers choice for you, never decided to rubber or try to bring another suggestion to rubbers or maybe you want all the family to went off. No one have options to rubbers okay.

      God that restore home will restore that home again, and make the pain of the remembered of that incident went off from that family bcoz this is really touched.

  4. If I were you I prefer my husband’s hand to be cut off. sleeping with your son is not only immoral, it’s incest.by the decision you made your son’s entire life been cut off not just his hands.you wanted your husband to keep his hands and continue working to support the family.its selfish.

    • Very correct! You just said my mind

      • She would have remain dumb is not better she die than to see her own son humble her sher would have insisted after much they would go the man is right who would want to sleep with a wife humbled by his own son right before his eyes she would have reject the offer and continue to beg them … What i suggest is that she leave the house or send her son out of the state where she or the husband may not see him for a very long time i wonder why sm ppls d*k are so mad that they rise at any condition cuz me any harm alarm or unconfort condition or during duress my d*k will go to sleep except am asleep then it will be awake or any time i feel like am save for… Maybe the boy have been admiring the mum that would make his man rise on her cuz I didn’t think anything could make My d*k rise on my Mum no matter the pressure

      • The condition they foie themselves was TOO bad.
        This is one of the reasons we must not pity any thief when caught.
        The ma has to understand that the woman love him.
        What if the man was in the same situation, what would have been his own decision too?

      • The boy have an evil intention n affection for the mother 4 long, he told those robbers Abt the money. The mother might have discused d secret with d boy who then use dat opportunity.
        The boy have an evil intention n affection for the mother 4 long, he told those robbers Abt the money. The mother might have discused d secret with d boy who then use dat opportunity.

        The boy av an evil intention and affection for the mother 4 long, he then plan wt robbers, notwithstanding the mother must av discused d secret secret to the boy being also her first child 2 b also kept secret, he then became greedy like Nigeria politician of Ochapapaawanting 2 take all .

    • Have your husband’s hands chopped and he becomea a burden from there on. He would never forgive you. His family will curse you . Imagine being a bread winner for the entire family plan hmmm don’t want to imagine it too much

    • Ako Lydia, l pray that such will not happen to you. What you comment here is totally wrong to what happened to the family. It’s a sudden incident and at that moment, no body will say this is the right thing to do.
      Also, God will never can’t it as a sin to either the mother or the son because it was a sin committed unwillingly. To tell you the fact, had it been she refused and said her husband hands should be cut off, those wicked robbers who lack conscience would have done it, in as much they can forced that boy on her mother.
      For me, I really pity the family. Most especially, the woman. She is a good mother and a truthful wife. May The Lord heal her wound. May The Lord return the joy that has been stolen away from that family. Those robbers will never have peace of mind and soul in all the days of their lives except they confess openly in Jesus Name.

  5. The first choice is usually the correct one dear.Never ever regret in life as regret is a sign of failure.One day,ALL will be fine in God’s might name.Cursed be the people who did this to you.

    • You said the right thing every sensible person would have said, some are speaking as if they are good people, those that are saying she was selfish are rather selfish.

      • Well if you ask me, I’ll say don’t kill yourself over your past because what’s ahead is bigger and better. God has plans for you and your family, go to God in prayers and ask for healing, tell him how you feel about the whole thing. Ask him to heal you, your husband and son. Peace shall be restored to home once again and God can something new out of old. You did your best!

    • You have said it all

  6. This is an eye opener. She did it to save the family and the husband is not grateful. If I was in her shoes, I would have preferred my husband’s hands be cut off. He caused the whole thing. Madam, if you are buoyant enough to send your son out of the country, do so and pray for him. The Lord is your strength.

  7. Am really sorry for the urgly incident that occurred,a music says those who knows feel it your entire family needs the help of a true orientation especially your husband,first the act of self guilty should be avoided,two your man should see your case as a matter of life and deaths and view your actions as as a saving grace, three you need to clear your son mind of any guilt so as to save him from depression and outcast behavior,may the Lord Almighty in his mercy and favour build your home back for you and give course to forget those bad memory of the past

    • You are right, you got it all,you are a good counselor,a woman in such condition need blame,all she needs is character Reformation,and her son too need to relocate,the husband is an ingrate,he is to be blamed, but nevertheless he needs to forgive himself,and move on with his wife

  8. She did made the rightful decision at this very point ever! Since did deed was not intentionally orchestrated!
    She did made the rightful decision at this very point ever! Since did deed was not intentionally orchestrated!

    She did made the rightful decision at this very point since the deed
    was not intentionally orchestrated by her in anywhere!

    • She had an option but chooses to commit abomination rather than have her husbands hands cut off. From her choice, means she consented

      • I'm surprised the boy could get it up under such horrible condition. don't understand.
        I'm surprised the boy could get it up under such horrible condition. don't understand.

        The man should try to appraise and understand that his wife and son are going through emotional trauma. What if it fell on him to make love to his daughter or have his head severed from his neck, what would he have done but oblige. He owes both his arms and more to his wife.

        • I think this is the worst experience ever. But you don’t have to regret your decision because it was a life saving one. You showed the whole family how much you care for them. Be prayerful and God is gonna heal you emotionally and spiritually.

  9. I am surprised that none of you even mentioned God in such a bad situation you found yourselves. God’s mercy would have done the work. Your husband too has some explanation to give, how come the robbers knew he withdrew such money? The people he talked with that day. Woman, asked for God’s grace to put this behind you and let His mercy rain upon you all.

  10. Is easy for other people to say because they are not in your situation I really can’t say you make the right decision or the wrong decision or I really will says that it is really hard for someone to make any decision

    • You're right this wasn't a cheap situation but haed,the lady did something good unlike seeing someone losing life
      You're right this wasn't a cheap situation but haed,the lady did something good unlike seeing someone losing life

      The woman did something better ,she saved people’s lives

  11. Sheku Osman Tholley
    Sheku Osman Tholley

    The lady tries very hard to save her family but it turns out to be the most frustrating thing for her.

  12. she should have tried the thugs

  13. Though it’s a very hard but you made a fairest one… remember neither you, your son nor your husband had any choice simply bcos the whole family was helpless and defenseless at the time.
    Don’t blame your husband, he’s been troubled within his mind, especially the feeling that he couldn’t do anything, even if he had to die put, hmm..had he make step to stop them could be dangerous for the entire family’s lives.
    Best solution for everyone is to move on as if nothing happened, everybody’s got to fight out of their respective minds…

  14. Don’t blame your self madam, you have done the needful to save your family. These people are devil’s agent to kill and destroy and cause sorrow to people. Now what I will advise is that the entire family should do spiritual cleaning. Don’t discuss with people keep the matter secret. Go for 7 days fasting and praying. Tha God forgive you all, that the blood of Jesus Christ wash your sins in your heart and soul and body . Pray for peace πŸ™ and joy from God into your hearts and all family. That God wipe away the evil memory from the heart of every member of the family in Jesus name amen. Then, forgive the robbers so that your prayers will be answered by God Try and go for a holiday and let your first son go with his girlfriend but must not tell the girl friend. Shalom πŸ’•.

    • Forgive who? Sir not all sin are forgivable God himself didn't not forgive Devil and his agent this people are Devil agents they must surely perish everlasting perish. Nothing like like forgive them they are tormenting already.
      Forgive who? Sir not all sin are forgivable God himself didn't not forgive Devil and his agent this people are Devil agents they must surely perish everlasting perish. Nothing like like forgive them they are tormenting already.

      Forgive who? Sir not all sin are forgivable God himself didn’t not forgive Devil and his agent this people are Devil agents they must surely perish everlasting perish. Nothing like like forgive them they are tormenting already.

  15. Your husband never loved you you had no choice you did your best sweetheart, he is half hearted you need to leave him he is the one who organized that gang open your eyes start a new life someone loves you out there, sorry for what you experienced I hope God will give you instant healing and your kids and leave that ritualist amen

  16. Dear, I’m sorry, about this incident. I pray God to console you and your family. May He heal your heart. Amen!

  17. The decision you made was ryt,to wat extent would it be a curse and so embarrassing for the husband to live without arms?Pray hard to the Almighty God to put back right wat is in wrong in ua family,God bless u

  18. For what God says whoever loses his life to save others saved it if it was me I would have surrendered my life because I know life in this Earth is short

  19. It is a very shock incident but ,if there are no others options from these two then it means you have made a good choice to safe the family.

  20. Well in this ugly occurrence, the woman decision is right because she is in a state of confusion, now to avoid trauma and heart problem the husband have a lot to do

    • The husband is an ingrate and a heartless person.He his the one coursing her and the Son all the havoc.But if he is asked to sleep with his daughter would he had opted for death? Since he saved the daughter from being raped, he should have even save the son from being beaten at the site of gun and as well allowed himself to be maimed or beg for them to kill him instead of allowing himself to watch the incident like that, a coward. Better thank your wife and try bring back joy into the house. Shallow thoughtful husband and father shiiooooo.

  21. Test of robers was just like test of Almighty God to you to test your faithfulness for him.but in time of danger you didn’t remember Jesus and that’s why Lord Left you in the hands of satan.you decided to choose your own son just for saving a why don’t you ask Jesus if it’s so happens then Jesus would have given you good decision.

  22. Ajayi jimoh Oyekola
    Ajayi jimoh Oyekola

    She has saved the family and I will always loved her.

  23. Why will u allow your son to fuck u, is better they cut off your husband hand because this is a life cause and your husband will mot love u again and how will your son be feeling. Before you know it, you will continue doing it. Well I love the story because I knew is a fabricating story by the write . Have a good day

  24. GOD knows best…but to my opinion you really made the right decision because you’re forced against your wish.imagine,you decide they killed your husband or cut his hand off… your children will also blame you and you will also fil guilty for the rest of your life. Please don’t be panic everything will soon come back to normal just matter of time

  25. Madam it really seems you were not saving your entire family but instead you were saving only your husband’s hands for future use. How can you dare to sleep with your biological son and a gain “first born”. Yet you had a nother option of choosing to die… Sorry please but may Almighty Allah be upon your shoulder for helps. We will pray for you and your family too.

  26. Victor Iheanyichukwu Ekewuba
    Victor Iheanyichukwu Ekewuba

    Do you even watch what comes out of your mouth before u speak? How can u ask her to kill herself? U think it’s easy at that point to think straight? She took the best decision that came to her mind in other to save everyone. If she had done otherwise, the hubby would have blamed himself for life, the son would have blamed himself for life and they could never have lived normal again. The truth is thatshe did the right thing. She should keep praying that God helps them heal. They definitely would heal with time

  27. We should not be too scared of death,atimes it is more honourable to die than stay alive to nurse an injury for a lifetime.

  28. Nomal Pearson on that one can’t even advise those two options u wear given was too much nothing u can do just play to God one day u will recover u didn’t commit adultery u are mo than inocent and u are a victim also maybe if u choose something not option u to be killed

  29. I want to tell you something serious about the days we are in now it is quite different from the other days you knew l only advice you to repent and put in mind that this world is not your home if you want Eternal life

  30. Joe Agbidion Kujera
    Joe Agbidion Kujera

    God kept you for a purpose
    Discover that purpose madam

  31. Stop all of you who are telling this woman what is immoral and what is not immoral fuck you all. Here is a situation where we need to help her recover. You are not righteous you are all as filthy as rags very dirty minded. Leave her alone. She has a chance. The husband is stupid, the son is stupid. Leave my dear sister,leave them and start a new life. And learn to cast your burdens to Jesus Christ. He will save you from the trauma. I promise He willπŸ™πŸΏπŸŒΉπŸŒΉπŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ₯΅β˜―οΈπŸ•ŠοΈπŸ•ŠοΈπŸ•ŠοΈ
    Go to him now if you are still alive and reading this. You had a difficult. Very difficult choice to make that day and you were not seated in a cozy chair and typing away on your smartphone or laptop computer. You was lying on the floor with guns to your head. Life and death. All these bitches and motherfuckers commenting on your post have never had a gin pointed to their heads and asked to fuck their son or cut off their husbands hands. In the name of Jesus receive your healing. God is not man that he should lie, neither is he the son of man that he should change his mind. Even the bitches who are commenting on this have slept with their sons and nephews and it was in time of peace not war. They are even sleeping with each other as we sleep. Messed up generation brood of vipers go to fuckin hell and rot thereπŸ™πŸΏπŸŒΉβœπŸΏβ˜―οΈ

  32. It’s easy for everyone here to post blames and express opinion on wat dey would have done ,well it isn’t u and more importantly what dis family needs is closure n healing.madam I can’t even begin to imagine what u hve been Tru n wat u r still going tru.i pray God gives u and ur family d strength n grace to move ahead dis.i have u in my prayers

  33. Please 😞 dear repent and I pray that you should not allow the 😈 decieve you because he’s looking forward to destroying you and family :in John 10:10 in the Bible it says the 😈 comes to steal ,kill,and destroy you . this is your temptation remember that I loving pray for you this message l want to share with you

  34. Is unwise to allow your son to make love to you. The boy will never be at peace whenever he set eyes on you.

  35. Remember in the front of Allah, you did nothing wrong. Because if you were to choose death you would be like as you have killed your self. So please, your son, husband and your self should know that it was no one intestion and forget all what happened by praying five times a day as how God tell us in Quran.

  36. It’s well with your soul! It only takes a of the spirit to stand the trial, but with the flesh you can not withstand rather to give out your best to save the flesh, for the Bible says, fear not him that kill the flesh and not the soul, only has the final says, may God help us, and also bring peace into your family in Jesus mighty name I pray, Amen.

  37. Neither choice was good or pleasing. If you had chosen your husband’s hands be cut off, the children would blame you and automatically would your husba. Choosing your son sleeping on your just increases the trauma. The man was supposed to have a say. Otherwise surrendering yourself to an affair to the robbers would at least tried to balance and condense the two. Nevertheless, you had no choice, so none should blame you woman

  38. This is indeed disheartening & shockingly painful just 2 read thru. A nightmare if ever there’s one.
    2 the family no one can or shud carry any blame. Everything the hubby did regarding the money was in good intention.
    The wife & son really had no choice as death was staring them in the face. But 4 them 2 detach themselves hasn’t helped at all – IT WAS 4 THEIR SURVIVAL!!!
    But 4 us, advisors, let’s be careful wiv our words. We’re advising in the comfort of our homes & hindsight. Positions being swapped I doubt if you’d chosen different in one of the worse choices one can be given.
    The family needs 2 talk 2 people -pastors, priests or shrinks.

  39. Such a very thightest situation, God is the only rescue…!Madam, your choicest was the best…try and ask Psychologist to come in…your family must come out of that situation….!and God almighty will see you through….thanks for sharing this bitterest experience…it is a great lesson to learn from….

  40. This is the worst scenario reflecting the principle of double effect. The truth about the Matter is that as regards to the adherence to the life principle, which states that human life is precious, priceless and fundamental, I hereby pronounce the decision and action of that woman correct.

    • Truly you are the only one that said what I like here. The Woman had no other option. Let me ask you who amongst us will be watching and see our beloved husband's Hands been cut off. Woman cheer up, Your Decision was very right.
      Truly you are the only one that said what I like here. The Woman had no other option. Let me ask you who amongst us will be watching and see our beloved husband's Hands been cut off. Woman cheer up, Your Decision was very right.

      Truly you are the only one that said what I like here. The Woman had no other option. Let me ask you who amongst us will be watching and see our beloved husband’s Hands been cut off. Woman cheer up, Your Decision was very right.

  41. Hi lady,
    I am extremely saddened by what happened and what you are going through right now.
    I am a widow and one person who has been robbed severally in my home. I can relate to the kind of trauma you are going through. There are no right or wrong choices in a situation such as this. The driving force was terror! You did what you had to do in the eye of a storm to stay alive. Kudos dear sister.
    What you are all going through right now as a family, is post traumatic stress. U feel angry, let down betrayed, dirty etc. What u need to know is that, none of you is to blame for the encounter.
    Yes you can recover, and yes you can be a happy family again!
    What you need to know is that you all need professional counseling both individually and as a family unit. The therapist will assess you and support you in dealing with the feelings you are going through.
    Remember, I said seek ‘professional counseling’ not ‘go to church and pray’
    I wish you well and deeply regret what happened to you.
    Inviolata…. Kenya.

  42. The woman should have trying to accept to cut off her husband’s arm,in order to see her husband reaction, that man is very stupid by blaming or avoiding her in this situation,he should have be a cancellour or mediator between his wife and his son after the ugly incident cos the wife save him from permanent physical handicap.

  43. Madam its time for u to give ur self to God forget what heard happen God knows ur heart its a sad memory in ur heart, but ask God to have mercy opon u and ur family let him unight ur family give u the grace to forget the ugly accident. Those robbers will never have peace in there life and their on born generation in Jesus name. Very sorry madam.

  44. Forgiveness is the answer to the problem. It has happened it has happened. And I see no family member at fault in this case. In the first place you supposed not have even told anybody, it is well with the family in Jesus name

  45. I know it’s hard, but you must understand that your son is the most affected one of the incidence,he will find it hard to accept what has happened and you can’t blame him for acting strange. The only thing you can do for him is to help lessened the guilt and misery he’s feeling deep inside so be bold and talk things out with him make him understand that you didn’t wish for things to be that way and that you still love him and that nothing has changed because of this incident and that you don’t blame him.As for your husband ,I’m so disappointed I him. He should be the one trying hard to bring the family together. Just don’t blame yourself anymore, what has happened can’t be changed .I’m sure most people would have made the same choice had it been them.just focus on helping your children overcome this trauma, if this doesn’t help seek counciling . But remember that talking things through is the first step to making things normal, this the only way you will know what your son is going through.

  46. U took the best decision so far. U don’t really have to blame urself right now, all u need is prayers. I will advice u go away from ur home for a while. Ur son should also go far away to enable him get smthings off his head. Pray for Grace and God himself will intervene for u and the family. Ur decision safe lives that day. As a Christian I will advice u not to give up on God in hard time bcos He alone can change this situation for good. May the spirit be with u and may His Grace speak for u and ur family, Amen…
    God bless u and ur family πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

  47. You did whatever was needful at that hour to save the situation. Whatever choice you choose stopped the tragedy. Forget about the past and move forward, one day your husband and son will come to appreciate why you did what you did. We can’t turn back the hand of time to make it right. Do we now kill yourself for that? No. We have to forget the pass so as to get into our future.

  48. Madam, stop feeling bad, I think d option u took is d best anybody in ur shoe will take, u opted for that bcos u love ur husband u don’t want his hands off, & of course he wouldn’t have forgiven u, he will say u want him to die, of course u don’t want ur son to die, & left for u, u can’t have ur son but situation made it so. But both son & father are blind & can not see d sacrifice u made. What all of u need d whole family, especially 3 of u is cancelling, ur husband will come to his senses & appreciate u then he will be able to talk to ur son. Lastly it is not something u have to hide, talk about it, meet ur village head & enquire if their is any cleansing that could be done for u people, bcos it is abomination, tell ur pastor or priest special prayers will be hold for u people & life continues, forget about what people will say if they hear it, saying it removes d guilt from u people, it doesn’t really matter what people say, u just want to be free & happy. Those robbers just want to humiliate ur husband, they are not interested in u but d money what of if they give u Hiv. Just be strong ma, our God will disgrace all of them one by one in Jesus name Amen.

  49. I know it’s hard but you have to understand that your son is the most affected one of the setuation. He won’t be able to accept what has happened between you two so you can’t blame him for behaving strangely.its hard but blaming yourself is not going to help in any way. I’m sure many would have make the same decision had they beed in you position.what you have to do is help your children especially your son.its not like he’s blaming you but he feels guilty and is traumatized. You just have to help lessen the guilt and misery he’s feeling deep inside so be bold and talk about it with him. Make him understand that’s what happened was never his fault and that you didn’t wish for things to turn out that way and that you don’t blame him for what happened that night and that you still love him so much and that nothing has changed between you two. This is the only way you can get to know what is going on with your son because he will talk about it and you will know how hurt he is. This is the first step to getting things back to normal. If it doesn’t help seek counseling.As for you hasbnad, I’m so disappointed in him he think he has the right to get angry with you?.He should be the one trying so hard to get the family back together.Dont worry about him,you did nothing wrong you did what you taught was best and that is the most important thing. Forgive yourself and your son will also forgive you. Your children’s wellbeing is what matters now

  50. In my own opinion, you would not have chosen any of the options. Let them decide on their own.
    If they want to force you, let them do their wish but don’t give in to any of the options.
    If they decide to kill, of course we shall all die someday. I know it’s a hard choice but rather pray to God to receive ur soul.

    However since you have decided earlier and is living with the unpleasant situation, I advise you seek a good counselor both on individual level and family level so as to get the family re-united.

    Letting go of the past and chatting a new future course is key to this. Good counselor(s) is/are needed and forgiveness should not be far fetched especially at this point

  51. It’s unfortunate that this woman is not helped at all by most of the comments here.
    What is she repenting of?
    Your husband’s attitude is to say the least immature and unappreciative.
    It was difficult for you to make the choice that will save your whole family.
    It was also difficult for your son, he couldn’t help it just like you.
    The situation was beyond both of you but your husband who is now acting weired never acted as a man to stop the act by offering his hands to be chopped off or be killed.
    He watched without doing anything to save the family by offering up himself for his own family.
    He lacks the right to talk in this matter.
    Madam, find a way to let your son Know that it was as difficult for you just as it was for him to come near you.
    Let him know that both of you paid the same sacrifice to save your family so both of you should put it behind you and move on.
    You should as a family seek GODS’ grace and mercy in this situation.
    If your husband refuse to do the right thing by calling the two of you for a heart to heart talk and then Invite God to help you come out of this situation make serious efforts to let your son know that you are also a helpless victim like you

    Seek strength from God and move on with your life.
    You actually owe no one appology.
    Trust God He will help you

  52. The decision has been taken already, either good or bad. I think the question should be how to bear the consequences of the decision. Your decision is to protect physical injury as against emotional injury. Physical injury will affect one person directly while emotional injury will affect everyone even the unborn children.
    I will advise that you choose the quantum of happiness you can live with till the final end comes. Avoid depression that could lead to desperation and suicidal thoughts.

    • THE ONLY WORST THAT HAPPENES ON THIS PLANET EARHT IS DEAD….NO ONE IS TO BE JUDGE HERE IN THIS FAMILY, USE WHAT YOU HAVE AND SAVE LIFE SIMPLE NO MATA HOW IT COMES…. YOUR SON WILL SOON GET HIMSELF IF AT ALL YOU PEOPLE SERVES GOD WELL, YOUR HUSBAND SUPPOSED TO BEHAVE LIKE THAT BUT IN DUE TIME HEAVEN WILL RESTORE PEACE ONLY GIVE IT UNTO GOD AND MAKE SURE YOU GO OUT FOR SEMINERS AND ENTERTAINMENT PROGRAMES AND THE TRUMER MUST WIPE AWAY THOUGH WHENEVER YOU SEE YOUR SON YOU MUST REMEMBER THAT BUT NOTE: ONLY HOLY SPIRIT CAN WIPE IT OUT

  53. Dear madam I feel ut pains, but to me u took the right decision, if it is other way round u LL still have miserable life bcus ur husband and children LL become burden on u, for that if ur husband everything LL soon normal and ur son LL soon become strong and later 4get whole thing. Let ur son know Γ©vil and miserable life that might experience if they cutoff his dad hands. U took the right decision, u an hero.

  54. Dear madam I feel ut pains, but to me u took the right decision, if it is other way round u LL still have miserable life bcus ur husband and children LL become burden on u, for that of ur husband everything LL soon normal and ur son LL soon become strong and later 4get whole thing. Let ur son know Γ©vil and miserable life that LL happen if they cutoff his dad hands and if his dad is no more working. Remember u cannot single handedly take care of needs. U took the right decision, u’re an hero.

  55. Two options: Ask him to sleep with her instead, or kill her instead of all the family.

  56. Madam,your good decision saved your family. Whoever think or act otherwise after the incident is to be blamed. As an African go to your family and pastor or imam to be prayed on.you and your entire family should learn how to live with the guilt as though it never happened.
    Since it was not intentional you bear no guilt.

  57. Na twiiter guy ds guy be
    Na twiiter guy ds guy be

    I pray Allah forgive you and give you peace

    • Ma, you’re a Super-Mom, I believe you too have your own trauma yet you’re burdened about the well being of your household. You’re not holding any grudges against your husband for bringing such amount of money home, neither are holding grudges against your son for not making proper investigation on who was at the gate before opening it…yet you were put in the middle. Believe me, you’re brave, strong and wise. Had it been you’ve chosen the second option, many would have still blamed you for not loving your husband. There’s nothing God can’t do, no ❀️ Break that He can’t heal. Also encourage them to seek the help of a counselor or therapist….
      Your son can go on a vacation for a while in order to clear his head.

  58. What she did was wrong, her body is her husband’s just like her husband’s is has,,,,

    She was supposed to ask the husband,,,if he chose to get his hands chopped off then let it be….

  59. What has happened has happened.You need spiritual healing through prayers.With time all will be ok as time heals wounds.You actually needed your husband to be by you.Just pray along by God’s grace he will come round.

  60. You have done nothing wrong sister afterall it was not intentional. What of if the rubbers asked your husband to do same to his daughter or your hands be chopped off, will he allow your hands chopped off? If he does that means he didn’t love you. He would have done the same, so Pls I know it’s a difficult situation but just encourage yourself and move on with your life. I pray that the rest of your family will have a rethink and see the goodness you have done to save them, you are a strong and a brave woman. You have taken the right decision, more so, every family has it’s own deepest secret, make this yours and don’t disclose it to anyone. God bless and hold your family as you return your story to Him in prayer.

  61. It must be heart breaking for you but there is no one who can understand what you are going through except God..Turn to him, tell him about all your worries and am positive he will give you perfect peace.. He will also help your son recover from the trauma..May God see you through

  62. This was a very difficult situation…and the husband needs to see the decision made by his wife as a sign of TRUE LOVE….because if she wished the all family would have killed by her decision….

    Just be closer to Jehovah God through prayers and please see the counselor so that you may be helped mentally…

  63. You did the right thing you saved ur family, and ur husband didn’t see that he is bastard

  64. Please, make sure you report to he robbery incident toa the Police So far you can identify some of these robbers. Because, Police had records of criminals and associates. Thus, Police will help you track down these robbers and purnish them in accordance with the Law. Ensure you go to hospital for proper clean up as regards the sex they made you had with your first son. Shalom.

  65. Cryver Lufunda Konde
    Cryver Lufunda Konde

    If your son is done with college,help him find a job and live by his own outside your town. Men, let’s be factual. No man can enjoy seeing another man around his wife. You did well to save his hands,but it’s a bitter pill to swallow. Give your son and distance,if he is able to live by himself.

  66. I think in the circumstance you found yourself, you took the best option. Your husband should see it that way and console both you and your son. To do otherwise is very unreasonable. Maybe if his hands were chopped off, that may have served him right? Abi? May the good Lord grant you the heart to bear this burden.

  67. It’s really trauma but you made Avery good decision by not making someone to loose a life just keep praying God shall see you through and make your husband to come around

  68. Adeniran Gideon Adegbenga
    Adeniran Gideon Adegbenga

    This is terrible situation that nobody should be blamed for, but with the present situation the husband should accept his wife as a kind person and beloved spouse who do not what her lover to become handicap person be if she did not take such decision the robbers may forced them to be victims of directives from these armed robbers by cutting off the husband hands and force the son to rape his mother. If such happened is it then that the husband would realized the best option the wife has take to save the life of her husband that might bled to death in the cause of this panicking and dangerous situation. Therefore ‘am appealing to the husband to understand his wife and his son acted under Durex against their wish. In fact they need need more pitying and passion more passion for them than adding more to their psychological truama ,that can heal their feelings. However, forgive them by showing your renewed deep love to them and happiness will spring up back in the family and Satan will be put ashamed.

  69. Kelvin.B @official_kushybangz, @officialkushybangy (IG)
    Kelvin.B @official_kushybangz, @officialkushybangy (IG)

    Take it or leave it, the perpetrators of this hinuos act is within the three(3) parties; The husband, wife or son..

    Either one of the husband’s workers must have been aware of this money and perhaps may have had an issue with the “husband” and decided to pull the hit..on the basis of revenge (2) the “wife” she must have had an issue with a neighbor who may have plotted the graph… Or the son may have had some bunch of bad gangs.. whom probably blew the hit out of proportion… Hence they all are dwelling under this self-guilt shadow….

    Then finally, to the so called “secretive husband” oga Titus! You don see were your PhD and masters degree land your entire generations nii??? What an “error of life”… mtcheeew! Meanwhile! On the contrary, the scripture say: the thief has come not but to steal, kill and destroy(John.10:10)…

    The robbers had killed the love in the family, destroyed the happiness and have also made away with d unity that bounded this home…. All they need do is turn to God in the alter of prayer. Especially the wife.. This is now the time for she to stand in the gap for her home lest the devil takes charge of this once had beautiful generation… This is my view here and this is my first time commenting on issues on a social media platform., Thanks… I remain my humble self:….. ……… …….

  70. The way your husband is treating you shows the robbery was his well planned mission. He collaborated with the ribbers. He just wanted to elude with the money and probably spend it with another lady somewhere else. The police should arrest him as the first suspect.

  71. Mam, first of all I greet you in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, my one and only advice and comment is that you should from now on see Jesus Christ as your husband and see your son as child of God then pray to God to perfect everything that Satan has made imperfect. Alongside fasting and nevermind what or how ur husband and son behaves just trust God. And God will do wonders in your home. Peace of the Lord be with you now and forever. Amen

  72. You haven’t done anything wrong because you were in the state of dialema so you should seek God forgiveness from God and your as well as seeing the counselor too for best counseling and advices!

  73. Madam, you are such a strong woman what you did was okay because you try to save your family from all angles, it will really be hard on you and your entire because no reasonable woman in her right senses will ever do that you did it to save all may God help you, and strengthen you.

  74. There is nothing more u can change dear, somethings are beyond us. Leave it up to God, pray without ceasing and may b leave home for sometime. Time heals.
    slowly u will try to forget it and your family too may try to forget,however its really hard. Only God can solve it.

  75. it’s better you should have chose your husband’s hands to be chopped off, or one of you to die, even if it was you to die.

    Such an act you shouldn’t have allowed it to happen to your son and in presence of the other young children and your husband

    It’s better to die for the truth than to live with such memories,

    Surely, also your husband should be well investigated, because he wasn’t saying anything as a man to protect his home, because since they had gave those two options to you while he was listening, truely!, I understand it was hard for you to make a decision, not only hard but hardest beyond the capacity of a woman, It should have been your husband’s self decision to protect you and the children by giving in himself, he was supposed to give out himself to death for the love of his family, even if he had died in such a way, by God’s grace you would be even more peaceful after some time, because the moment you remember how your man died or children remembering how their father died, then you just find your self in presence of God praying, giving thanks that amidst all God has been there for us, and even encouraged to work hard to keep the family’s reputation as to avoid keep regrating thoughts like i wish my father or my husband was alive!!!,

    but now see, instead of all these that gives inspiration to all, now what will happen whenever that day reaches or whenever that scene is remembered, it’s totally madness in mind, requesting death that why am I still living, too bad, but I pray that God look kindly upon you, may God forgive you as He forgave David His servant Psalm 51 make it your prayer and fix in also your own words

    Members, surely, I know death is bad, and everyone doesn’t want to die or doesn’t wish to die, but surely there is when dieing would mean more blessings, joy in the Lord because you have died in the Lord,

    Let’s stand firm always and don’t give up on our faith for sin for the fear of death, there is eternal life in God, it’s better to go heaven lame than hell with all body parts ok,

    Remember Hosea 4:6 says my people are perishing because of the lack of wisdom, if you have a chance to remain in the Lord and die or forget God and live, you would have better remained in the Lord and die because today they kill you, but after here you live forever that living for a moment and then die forever

    Ohhhhh mercies God, your mercies and grace never ceases, they are new every morning, great is thy faithfulness, it’s by your grace that we are not consumed, may you have mercy upon this family and forgive them all, let them call upon you and you grant 2nd Corinthians 5:17 to happen in there lives and family life # make them new and forget the past bad memories,

    Keep them in perfect peace, they minds are stayed on you oh Lord Most high God Isaiah 26:3

    Be with them and us all in Jesus’Name, Amen πŸ™

    • Which death. You have never had the experience Yes I had an experience in Warri. That is not a sin because you were forced to do it. So God does not condemn anybody for that. That was the right decision to save the whole family. Pray and move on. If your husband can reach me I will counsel him. It was one of those conditions you don’t have control over .If they chopped off your husbands hand will he like it. Please reach me for counseling on +2348064558987 Whatsapp. The matter is passed and should be allowed to die a natural death. Move on it was not fault of any of you

  76. Ikwukananne Ilodibe
    Ikwukananne Ilodibe

    Terrible!!!
    Madam, sorry this happened. Pls, take it to God in prayer. He is the author and finisher of our lives.Surely, He will restore peace and unity back to your household . In fact, He knew why such happened to your household. Put God Almighty first in and believing this matter is solved.

  77. Is it at the moment of death and great confusion? Who knows weather the so called husband organised this to test the integrity of his wife. Simply because even his daughters were too small himself would have be the one to be in this situation. Therefore ,my own advice to this ugly incident is that the man should move closer to God and pray fervently for himself and his entire family for regeneration of new life for the whole family.

  78. What sort of husband is that? He should understand that it was not your intention. Besides, why did he put the money in the house, can’t he put it in the bank. He wants his two arms to be gone, right?β˜ΉοΈπŸ˜”β˜ΉοΈπŸ˜”πŸ‡³πŸ‡¬πŸ‡³πŸ‡¬

  79. Is it at the moment of death and great confusion? Who knows weather the so called husband organised this to test the integrity of his wife. Simply because even his daughters were too small himself would have be the one to be in this situation. Therefore ,my own advice to this ugly incident is that the man should move closer to God and pray fervently for himself and his entire family for regeneration of new life for the whole family. Thanks

  80. Better to chop the man’s hands off. Instead you killed your son, yourself, and your whole family

  81. Life is full of text… You were forced to do it and not willingly. God knows your intention, May Almighty Allah (God) have mercy upon you and guide you to the right path (Religion). Thanks

    • Sorry ma for thefrustration , sadness and pains they’ve caused you and your family. I pray that God almighty judge us according to our hearts and not by our mistakes, for sure they’ll pay for the inhuman treatment givin to you and your family. Sorry ma.

  82. Hmmm! This is a painful and a traumatized experience. It will only take the grace of God and time to heal. Madam you didn’t make the wrong choice. Try to face your fears which is having your son and husband talked about what happened. If possible you people should take a vacation to a place far from home. Maybe by the time you come back you might have healed to some extent. Your son needs a psychologist for chancelling. When he’s done, you and your husband should do same. It’s well with you and your household.

  83. The choice to save life is the best choice, it can be corrected with time. Do not blame your husband, such a thing happened in his presence, he won’t get over soon, though is about six months now prayerfully and seeking for advice will heal the wound. Again, if you are a Christian look for a way to bring in a trusted genuine Holy ghost filled man of God for council. The God of peace shall restore peace in your home in Jesus name Amen

  84. Let all the family have a dialogue and forgot the past , cu’s wat happen is not an intensions is an accidental , and ask God to forgive you sins

  85. I don’t anything to say than to cry for your over your pain but God would grant peace in your life again

  86. sister you are doing the right thing…..
    you are just saving a whole family…

    what about the other story that say a son was waiting for his girlfriend and he had prepared for it..and suddenly the girl failed to come… and beside the boy had drink a lot to handle the girl… and when the boy was drinking this concortion his mother was there…. so when the medicine start working and it’s almost kill the boy and the only solution to it was sex… and the mother jump in and save his child…so it’s was you what will you do.

    Sister don’t worry all will be fine.

    am proud of you…

  87. She did wrong. Is it not in the Bible that the 3 Hebrew children were asked to bow to idol and they refused and were thrown in to the lion’s den and God delivered them. Am amazed by the comments I saw here saying that she did Right. She did very wrongly She is supposed to reject the two options and have faith in God and see what God will do and profess her faith to the robers. The problem is that most of you here are unbelievers. You go to church but you don’t know God neither do you believe in his power.God is more than capΓ ble of delivering her from that situation and she would be free from all that she went through

  88. Afolabi Emmanuel O.
    Afolabi Emmanuel O.

    The husband should be more mature than what he displayed. He should see the wife as the savior that prevented him from his hands being chopped up by the robbers. The son blamed the father for not opened up that attract punishment. The husband as the head of the house should show more love to the wife to heal the wounf and trauma and encourage the son that it was not intentional. The whole family should forgive one another, and join hands together to pray to God to forgive, heal the family and unite them together again. and God will destroy every plan of Satan in their home in Jesus’ name.

  89. I am in support of wat u did u did d right tin nd if I were in ur shoes I would have done same I pray dat God will give u peace of mind and restore ur family’s peace bck again

  90. Very unfortunate incident. So surprised that the husband could not take his place as the head of the family by making the decision. He is a coward for consenting to the wife decision in present of robbers and started behaving funny. The decision was made by the husband. If he had a better choice, probably to choop off his hand, he should have voiced it out. He should call the family together and apologize to them and instil confidence as the leader. This is the test of leadership. He has failed. The role of husband is much more than just bringing money home for food, clothing and shelter. Now talking to all husband out there, please lead by taking the family decision whether in season and out of season. May the husband stand and forge ahead with his God given responsibility.

  91. Hmmmmm, this hard , but I sympathize , you did something right , but most of we men are foolish, why would your husband start ignoring?
    You should have let’s his fucking hads been cut off, I don’t know why most of we men are ingrate, moreover if he has giving out the money easily this might not happen
    But stubbornness won’t let us rest , blame him for ignoring you, if his hands has been chopped off, it will be the most unforgettable moment of his life , and will he be able to work for another month after then

    But you should have tried telling them to kill you that you can’t do it they might have some mercy but , it difficult too 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
    But you did the best thing but circumstances just beyond human power
    May your home be peaceful πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™ soon

  92. This is touching. Prayer is the key. Madam, jxt pray for healing and for ur husband and son.

  93. Very sad new but,mother,son ask for forgiveness,as a Christian u rather choose to die Rightous,cos what u av done if u are still kill by them is doubt wahala

  94. Sad story. Just wondering how the boys dick could be up to penetrate under such condition. Well your boy didn’t do it intentionally. God will judge.

  95. So so sorry my sister, my advice to both of you is saving lives is not something easy you have to pass through a tin niddl because separating between life and dead is what you did to save your husband and the entire family.so it has happened forget about it the wound is big but it’ll heal have hope in Jesus nothing impossible to him

  96. “What has been is what will be, what has been done is what will be done. There’s nothing new in this world”.
    There are many instances where the unexpected things happen, and people put them aside and move on. Look, that man needs to develop and exercise the value of forgiveness in this issue. Almost all of us making these comments have, one way or another, gone through parallel instances. Either intentionally or unintentionally we have the experiences and let it be.
    I hope your husband has the opportunity to read our comments, I also hope that you have no cheating record in your relationship. If no cheating record, continue to go closer to him. Don’t distance yourself due to his approach/behavior. Any time he’s home, sit by him, bath with him, always speak to him in a kind and lovely voice even if he pretends not listening, always enter bed with him in an available way even if he shows no interest. The more you love play on him, the faster he will forget, the less you interact with him, the more he will feel bad.
    Do these and leave the rest with God.

  97. In this kind of situation, i think you did the right thing, and your husband should also understand and try to unite the family, and the most important thing was that the robbers didn’t took anyone’s life. I pray that God will strengthen your family and bring back joy and happiness in your family in Jesus name.

  98. I must say no one is really to be blamed for the incident.No one ever agrees he has money the moment he is asked by robbers, you were all found in an ugly situation.perhaps your son is traumatized for sleeping with Mummy or he is pained that daddy couldn’t help.And you as a mother is hurt too that you couldn’t help the situation and no one sees reasons with you.Hubby may be avoiding everyone because of the guilt of not being able to safe the family , keeping secrets from you or bringing money home causing the entire family pain.You are all going through hard times.The family has to leave the state, ,country,street or village,get a counselor and learn to pray harder. But you are to be cleansed either according to your husband’s traditional or religiously.It’s abominable for such incident to occur even though it didn’t take place out of free will

  99. You made a better decision, give it time family will come back together. It should be the man to encourage his family but not the wife cause you and your son your the victims

  100. Woman you have paid the price for the lives of your son and husband. You and your husband should not allowed death for which you paid a sacrifice to still creep in and claim any of you. Suicide is brewing and your husband should wise up and block it!

  101. Just pray I’m commit everything into God’s hand that God should bring back your family the way it was before and commit your husband into God’s hand that God should take away all the thoughts in his mind, because this is a serious case not a prank so let him just understand you may take all the decisions I got your life or his two hands and not there is still not a good decision but we thank God for everything let God take control and see your family through

  102. Please don’t think about death as some people are saying, you did what you could to save your family and you can’t reverse what happened, trust God with your family, I know it’s quite difficult to imagine what you went through but I pray you start by forgiving yourself and may God restore peace in your family in Jesus name amen

  103. On God

  104. Sometimes we have to accept the stage that we can’t change what you did is right

  105. I think your husband is sick in the head seriously the first you should do is divorce that is just an option but Take care of your son yes it can be hard but one Should know in life one has to make decisions
    You should make sure he understands your reasons for doing so . Don’t hide from confront and comfort him.
    And for your husband seriously talk to him it ain’t easy for him to see You’re wife being being done
    YOU let it out it is hard for you to go somewhere and scream let it out cry to your heart’s content Go talk to maybe someone you trust
    Never think negatively put an a smile not a faKe one If your husband can not understand leave him we Know love is blind let it not you plain stupid
    Wake up every day for your children.

  106. Your husband should stop pretending.
    He caused it all, his sturborness rigidness and stupidity landed you all in this no choice dillema. He should accept the fact that he’s a failure who cannot lay down his life for his entire family.
    Your son should also know and understand you have no choice than to do what you did. Having understanding this reconciliation can now takes place.

  107. What a tragic incident…..
    An incident that could have claimed the life of a whole family and render a man whom happens to be the head and also the bread winner of the family useless to himself and the whole family, if God had not lead the woman on the right decision to take.

    Madam, I’ll like to use this medium to commend you on your wise and self less decision you took on that fateful day. Infact you have succeeded in proven to the public that you are a true Christian who is indeed directed by the voice of God.

    As we all know desperate challenge requires desperate measures .

  108. You did right! Let that be your family secret and live with it. However,your son is firstly a suspect in this case; how would they know there was money in the house? How could he perform? And why should he be avoiding your face?. May God gives you the courage to live with things you cannot change.

  109. You did good to save the lives of your family, say, your son and husband’s lives!
    Now continue praying!, Keep the love, trust and faith you had for your relationship blossoming,
    The lord God is by your side,he will fight for you and make your family safe and will still have love and everything will be as usual.

  110. Thank you,what I have to says is to appreciate you,you have make a right decision. You show love and caring for the family, life first.

  111. Hmmmmm. Like seriously I don’t know what to say.

    All is well my sister,may God heal your home and give you wisdom to come out of it. May God grant your son relief and grace to move on. Let the boy stay with you and I know God will intervene.

    But what he has done is unfair and unjust. The best thing he should have done is to love her more and to comfort her in this situation because if he continues like this, it can cause more havoc.

    God will continue to be your help and comforter and may God Almighty heals your home.

  112. Real disaster. I advice we make God the Head of our home. He won’t allow such tragedy in the family where there is at least a faithful child of His. He has a way of delivering the righteous from evil and temptation. But forgive yourselves, forgive each other, forgive the criminals. Seek counseling and prayer for spiritual and emotional rehabilitation from a trusted man of God, and most importantly turn your lives and family over to Jesus. He can destroy the works of Satan and make all things new in your lives and home

  113. Gunugunu warikefiemi
    Gunugunu warikefiemi

    God will forgive the whole family for what happened, if there is any option or ramson to be paid for death millionaires would have not die, but this woman have paid ramson for the death, although death is inevitable, that day death was over, nobody should be blame, except the armed robbers, but the wrath of the Almighty God must surely come to them, who after robbing them of their money, causing them to commit one of the worst, even the worst sin human being can watch and see in his life time,,,,, happy new year celebrations,,,,

  114. Im trying to imagine that kind of scene, this was serous garbage though the best decision you made at that time. I believe God knows why this had to happen to you. May He (God) see you through as you are struggling with the healing process. His blessings will be upon your house just pray without ceasing.

  115. Pity this guy . get closer to your maker I no he calm the situation both spiritually and morally

  116. I think u did what u had to…it may be hard for u to go Normal but, it is what it is,,just wish the best with ur relationships and may the Lord grant you love and peace

  117. God still appears to people according to His word “those who call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved” , though it may seem like a death sentence or suicidal but remember those who mostly provoke the Almighty God into His unusual fearful action and sudden divine intervention often starred at devil’s face boldly without remorse to justify their absolute faith in God, to doing nothing abominable to God, rather than listening to any worldly authorities. Great examples Joseph and 3Hebrews in the bible. God too anyone who totally depends on Him in purity and genuineness of heart and will forever answers their but devil has so instilled fear in many and totally exchanged it in place of their faith. Even making them feel false guilt without any wrong doing, thinking God is too holy or far away to come instantly to their rescue, when most needed in seemingly impossible situations. But that’s where Most High waits to confirm His unbroken word and forever settled in Heaven, “Life to those who finds them and health to their flesh” I.e: anyone who stand upon His word steadfastly, holds unto the helm His garment like woman of the issue of blood in absolute hopeless situation. Same way will definitely be preserved by God of all flesh. Remember heart kings is in hands and He directs it to wherever pleases Him and nothing is difficult for Jesus to do. It’s until things gets totally out of man’s control, knowledge or understanding then that’s when it’s up to God by simple weapon of absolute faith in purity of heart. Bible says “those who know their God shall be strong and will do exploits” by shaking Heaven to attend to terrible situations by a more Mighty and Terrible God. Because He’ll never share His glory with anyone or His praise with any idol or image.
    Bless you.
    PST Joseph
    Lagos, Nigeria.

  118. Madam, it’s very unfortunate that the devil had to come through this way so he could distabilized the family but one thing is sure God has quickest solution to every bleeding heart so look up to him

  119. You acted in the best interest of all and you saved everyone. Indeed you are a mother. Both your husband and your son should accept it. Atleast you where not rapped by the robbers so you are even luck because that could have been troumour. You acted well no blame.

  120. Any one who criticized this woman is more wicked than the robbers. What she needs now is help to come out of the trauma.
    Ma’am, you are still alive, so there is hope.
    This world is passing away and so is everything in it. Seek God and eternal life, and all that happened will not keep you in bondage anymore.
    May your husband receive wisdom and comfort you in Jesus name amen.

  121. you made a wise decision in favour of all so I see no blame better ,no life was lost so your husband and son can’t blame you for accepting it. What as happened as happen so go to hospital for treatment to avoid any ejaculation in cos of it and live a happy home

  122. If is me I swear to God I will never choose any of the options rather stay quiet and pray to God if it is will for me and my family die so let me it, in Jesus name Amen πŸ™.( But not praying that)

  123. Leave home and go far miles for about 3 years , although you didn’t like action , you’r seen as sapent to your Family and that community.but before that write anot and tell them all you feel and what u want and secretly leave when u r free.you have to move life ,I know it is painful but God who tested you will protect your children,. don’t go to relatives let them all miss u, after that time call one by one maybe everything will be some how waaaawuu,if the problem persists start new life than pain through life.we shall pray as u do the same to your family , other wise sorry.

  124. Cap these days

  125. None of the options was good but you chose one to save your life, you keep your Hubby’s arms but ended up hurting everyone emotionally. It’s traumatic but the family has to live with this as a family secret. Be strong ma’am.

  126. Very sorry it was a sad story.. overcome what had happened and continue living same as before

  127. The boy is the mastermind of the robbery. How did the organ function under that terrible condition? It can not, the boy knows better…

  128. Joseph Ihwughwaovwe
    Joseph Ihwughwaovwe

    That is not a sin because you were forced to do it. So God does not condemn anybody for that. Pray and move on. If your husband can reach me I will counsel him. It was one of those conditions you don’t have control over
    I quite traumatized, ur husband should appreciate your ability to serve the whole family not paying you the other way round. This bastards are devilish incline, hence u can’t negotiate with them. They only do what the devil asked them to do. Sis, the decision u made was life saving one. Don’t regret it,for it wasn’t intentiona. I would like to talk to the son just drop his WhatsApp number and all of you should always stop comdeming yourselves please because God’s not … Read one sad story like yours and see for your self Judges chapter 19 and 20 you will see the horrible things that happened and ch. 20 how God finally forth for them so my point is the almighty is with you all… even more now to help.. just to help the whole family my dear not to Judge them please…. In time like this he said “Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be anxious, for I am your God. I will fortify you, yes, I will help you, I will really hold on to you with my right hand of righteousness”Isaiah 41:10

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