Your husband is someone whom you will be spending the rest of your life with. He will be the father to your children. He is supposed to be the pillar of your home and the strength of your family. Marrying the wrong man could mean a lifetime of suffering, not only for you but also for your future children. Unlike breaking up with a boyfriend which can be done in an instant, separation between a husband and a wife is a different thing. Its wound is deeper, its cost is higher, and its impact to the people around you is greater.
Marriage is both a legal and a sacred thing, governed by the law of our land and the law of the heavens. Thus, ladies have to be extra careful in choosing the guy they should marry. This also applies in looking for a boyfriend, since a boyfriend is the closest guy who can be your husband. To guide you in finding the right guy whom you will be exchanging wedding vows with at the altar, Below are 7 signs from the Bible that he is the man you should marry;
1. He Is Loving and Caring
“Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. – 1 Corinthians 7:3 (NKJV)
There is no need to explain this further, I’m sure you don’t want to spend the rest of your life loving someone who doesn’t truly love you in return. So make sure you the guy you want to marry is loving and caring.
2. He’s Loyal and he Doesn’t Cheat
“The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:4 (NIV)
In reality, a loyal person who doesn’t have any history of cheating will not fill your mind with doubts and jealousy but with peace of mind. And with peace of mind, you can spend your married life with more productive activities that your family can enjoy. Also, you won’t like the idea of surrendering your body solely to your husband, while he’s sharing his body to other women out there. That would be so unfair, right?
3. He Is Trustworthy, Responsible, and Reliable
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.” – Ephesians 5:22-23 (NIV)
The Bible wants the wife to submit to her husband so that the latter can rightfully lead her. But what if the guy you will marry is irresponsible and unreliable? Would you like yourself and your children to be led by him? The passage above clearly wants women to find a man who can be a good leader – someone who will lead them to a good and blissful life.
4. He Appreciates You
“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:” – Proverbs 31:28 (NIV)
A husband who doesn’t appreciate your efforts and value your accomplishments will always make you down and cause you to lose self-confidence and self-respect. Hence, find a man who will raise you up rather than pull you down.
5. He Has Wisdom
“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” – Proverbs 13:20 (NIV)
Wisdom is the ability to discern what’s right from what’s wrong, and actually follow the first. If your potential guy thinks that lying, cheating, and being irresponsible are just okay, then you should already know what to do. If you don’t want to spend your life with someone who will keep hurting you emotionally, mentally, and physically, do not marry a fool.
6. He Will Bring You Closer to God
“I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion. I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the Lord. – Hosea 2:19-20 (NIV)
If you want to have a family that is blessed by your God, find a man who will not take you away from Him. If you believe in God, who is a God of love, justice, compassion, and righteousness, then you have to marry a man who will inspire you to practice those virtues.
7. He Knows How to Love and Take Care of Himself
“In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” – Ephesians 5:28 (NIV)
A person who cannot love himself can hardly love others. If your future husband doesn’t know how to take care of his own health, how can he take care of yours and your children? If he can easily hurt himself, can you expect him to not also hurt you?