One of the hardest things in life is accepting that the person who used to be the center of your world does not want to be part of your life anymore. The difficult part is when you are left hanging, because you are not sure whether to wait or not.
However, knowing that your ex does not want you back anymore should push you to move on no matter how hard it may be. If you do not do it, you will end up being in bitterness while your ex is freely enjoying his/her new life. Below are 10 signs that will help you realize if it is worth hoping for a reconciliation or not;
1. Your Ex does Not Respond to Your Calls or Messages Anymore
This is normal if she/he does not answer your calls and messages days after your breakup. Maybe, she/he just needs time and space. However, if after weeks and months your ex does not even bother to reply your messages and she or he never picks up even if you call every day, then it is clear the person does not want to communicate with you anymore.
2. You Are Not Chosen
If there is a need to choose between you and another person, then whoever gets chosen is clearly the one holding the heart of your ex. If the other person gets picked over you, then you know the answer to the question whether your ex is over you or not.
3. She/He Does Not Care If You Date Someone New
In the same way, if your ex does not seem to care if you find someone new already, then it means she/he is already over you. If she/he still cares, she/he would normally directly or indirectly express anger or bitterness. S/he could confront you about it, and may even cause him/her to realize and admit that she/he is afraid to lose you to someone else.
4. Your Ex Does Not Make Any Effort To Reconcile
If over the weeks and months your ex never makes any effort to win you back or at least express how she/he misses you, then it is a clear sign. The person does not want to make any step that can rekindle your affection for each other, because she/he wants complete freedom from you.
5. Your Efforts Are Taken For Granted
If after weeks or months you are still doing everything to win your ex back, but it seems like she/he does not care about it, then you better stop. You are only making a fool of yourself. If the person still wants you back, she/he would not ignore you for a long time.
6. His/Her Family Does Not Welcome You Anymore
Usually, if you are welcome in the home of your boyfriend or girlfriend, you become part of the family. So, whenever you two fight, they would tell you to reconcile. They would even back you up to win him/her again. However, if this time the family is already cold to you, maybe it is because your ex made it clear to them that she/he does not want to be back with you anymore.
7. She/He Seems Irritated and Unexcited To See You
What about accidentally bumping into each other? If your ex seems unexcited and annoyed seeing you after weeks or months of being separated, then it means she/he is not interested to hear you or see you anymore. If the person still cares, that moment would be special and emotional for him/her.
8. You Are Told You Deserve Someone Better
This line is a cliché usually used when dumping someone. Normally, this is an excuse used by a person to free himself/herself from the guilt of causing pain to someone. One who truly loves his/her partner would do his/her best to deserve that person. So, if your ex keeps on using this on you whenever you try to get back with him/her, then you have to think twice.
9. She/He Seems Happy and Content With Present Life
If breaking up with you was not a loss for your ex, then it would show in his/her aura. Yes, it is normal that s/he misses you, but if s/he seems getting by with peace and joy without you, then maybe she/he thinks the breakup was a good decision.
10. All Your Stuff Are Returned
Usually, it is hard to return the things of your ex after breakup if you still love the person, because doing so is like letting the person go for good. That is why, if your ex gives you the stuff you gave him/her, it could be a sign that she/he is already letting you go.