The older we get the more our age can come off as a shock for us. Some more so than others as some of us realize that we’re still single. And while this realization may cause us to get back into dating, there is one thing that you should know: dating when you’re older is different than dating when you were younger.
Since your last attempt at dating, you probably have more baggage you’re carrying and your field is narrower. Chances are also likely a lot of people in your inner circle are already married, so you may feel pressure from there. Not to mention pushing yourself to interact with people outside of your initial circle. Below are 5 essential tips to keep in mind for future dates and dating attempts;
1. Remind Yourself That Age Is Just a Number
Just because you’re older you may think that only people within your age group will be the only ones interested in you. But that’s not always the case. People can find love regardless of age and sometimes younger individuals can see the appeal in dating or marrying older individuals. They’re wiser, have gone through life longer and have experienced more with life.
2. Move Away From The Past
On the same vein as age, it’s important that we’re not caught up in the past. This means rethinking our attitude towards age, but also letting go of past mistakes. We’ve no doubt had some rocky relationships and have experienced heartbreak. The key is to let all of that go and not let it get to you. By this point in our lives, we probably have a skeleton or two in our closet anyway.
3. Dump Your Bias Towards Divorce
Divorce is a painful word for people and when you’re dating at this age, chances are some of them have gone through them. This makes sense since the divorce rate within America is roughly 42% to 50%.
But instead of being dejected about the whole thing, consider it as an advantage. If the person you are dating has gone through a divorce, there is a good chance that they learned a lot from the experience. What this means is that they can then apply this knowledge into the next relationship they have. As a general rule, when discussing marriage, don’t pry for details. While you may want to know what happened, let them open up to you about it.
4. Remember to Communicate
You may have heard this piece of advice before, but it is still as relevant as ever: communication is key. It becomes even more important now as most people your age would be looking for something more serious.
As such, you want to make sure that you can speak openly and with honesty to your significant other. At the same time, they too should be able to talk with no issues. After all, if you’re not talking about your problems, it’s going to be tougher to move forward.
5. Focus On Enjoying Yourself
When we get older, we often dwell on the things that we don’t have yet. Some of us expect to be married, have kids, a nice house, and a stable income, but that’s not always going to be the case. Wanting those things in our lives is okay and all, but if we focus so much on what we don’t have, we can forget what we do have in our lives. This applies to dating as we can also imagine our ideal soulmate rather than who that person actually is.
Instead of imagining all of that, devote time to enjoying yourself and getting to know the person more. Dating should be a fun experience regardless of how old you are.