Failure is the state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective, and may be viewed as the opposite of success. Product failure ranges from failure to sell the product to fracture of the product, in the worst cases leading to personal injury, the province of forensic engineering.
Failure chips away at us. It might manifest as an unsuccessful business venture, a doomed relationship or a relapse into bad habits, but chip after chip, these tragedies cleave little pieces of our hope, patience and self-esteem, leaving behind a sense of bitter pessimism that’s difficult to shake.
In truth, however, this chipping is chiseling, sculpting you into a better person. With every mistake you make, you learn a lesson, and with every lesson learned, you develop into a dynamic individual with a fresh understanding of the world. Your failures carve and shape you into your best self, stronger and sharper. After all, how dull would life seem if you were always successful in everything you tried? It’s human nature to thrive on challenge, to perpetually push toward improvement in the pursuit of something greater. Without challenge, without testing your skills and willpower, “success” has no inherent value. Below are some tips that will help you rebuild your life after failure;
1. Determine What Caused the Mistake
According to a quote, “Those who don’t remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” If you don’t know what led you to make the mistake, you can’t take the necessary precautions to avoid it next time, and you’ll end up making the same mistake over and over in a vicious cycle. Put aside a significant portion of time for serious self-reflection. Confront the fundamental flaws in your character that resulted in your failure. Through examination and self-evaluation, you can change your behavior to avoid potential issues and grow into a more confident, competent person. It’s as simple as composing a list of your strengths and weaknesses. List your positive and negative traits side by side and decide what you’d like to change. Afterward, make a concrete goal and write down the individual steps you’ll need to reach it, organizing an action plan to achieve success.
2. Forget the Past and Move Forward
It’s easy to fall into the trap of self-pity, replaying your mistakes on repeat in your mind like you have something to gain from suffering. And while it’s easier said than done, you’ll need to shed this defeatist attitude and adopt a positive perspective. Look to the future, not back into the past. Treat optimism like a muscle you can exercise. Things are rarely as bleak as they first appear, so try to approach your situation from an objective point of view, free from your bias. Within the greater context of your life, this failure is just a single event, and comparatively insignificant.
3. Revisit Your Plans in a New Light
With an unsuccessful business venture, failure can result in an enormous loss of money. If you sunk significant assets into a plan that fell apart, or you found yourself the target of a dubious marketing scheme, you may lack the resources you need to start over. But you don’t have to let it weigh you down. If anything, this kind of failure allows for new opportunities and reinvention. It demands that you prioritize what’s important to you, cut out unnecessary distractions and adapt yourself to a difficult environment. These stressors temper and mold you into a capable individual and savvy businessperson. After you’ve taken the necessary time to recuperate, return to your plans and review them with fresh eyes. You’ll likely notice points you missed before and see the areas where you ran into trouble. Today’s hardships represent valuable experience that will contribute to your success tomorrow.