It is certainly not an easy decision to choose a wife in marriage. Lots of people have made the mistake of choosing wrongly and that usually ends up costing a lot. Fortunately, it is most definitely possible to form a bond with the right woman that will last a lifetime. What’s important is knowing whether or not the woman you’re with has a long term vision that also aligns with your vision. Your wife doesn’t have to be perfect but if she exudes these attributes, she’s a keeper. If you want to recognize the qualities of a good wife, it’s important that you know the signs of a bad one. Most of the characteristics you may think are most important in a wife may not be ones that make for a good, lifelong relationship. Below are seven types of women that make bad wives;
1. She Is Selfish
Never overlook a woman who is selfless. You know you’ve found a good wife when she really values others. A selfless woman also puts God first. She puts other people’s wishes, interests or aspirations first because she values others. A bad wife does the opposite. Her insecurities drive her selfishness. Look at the way she treats her family and friends. Giving to others comes naturally to her. She finds happiness in giving away her energy, time and hard earned money, even to those who need help but don’t ask for it.
2. She Has An Evil Heart
If your wife is constantly consumed with their life and their needs and not the needs of those around her, proceed with caution. This may be a sign that she has an evil heart and will only take advantage of you. They play on the kindness and sympathy of good people, and then try to mislead them. They will demand mercy, but never give any themselves. They will also push for warmth, forgiveness and intimacy from those they have harmed with no empathy. They also have no real intention of making amends or working hard to regain lost trust. A wife that does not concentrate equally to both individuals in the relationship will not change their priorities down the road.
3. She Is Not Trustworthy
Is the woman you love someone you can trust? If you can’t say yes, you’re in trouble. This is about more than fidelity in marriage. A good wife wants her husband to know that he can trust her and depend on her just like she trusts and depends on him. She sees the marriage as a partnership with God at the helm. You guys are a team. Scripture tells us, “The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain” (Proverbs 31:11-12). A husband trusts her when she does him good and not evil. He will have confidence in her when he is encouraged. The trustworthy wife seeks to do her husband good all the days of her life.
4. She Doesn’t Love You Unconditionally
People tend to believe that “true love” relationships are only found in fairytales, but we have the power to turn our own relationships into just that. A good wife loves you unconditionally. She values you the way you are. Unconditional love in essence is true love so different from the kind of love most of have known all our lives that it deserves a definition of its own. Unconditional love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. A woman that doesn’t love you unconditionally likely has ulterior motives. If you don’t keep your eyes open, you will find yourself broken later.
5. She Doesn’t Make You a Better Man
Never overlook a woman who makes you a better man. Any man who has a great wife will tell you that she makes him a better man. Sometime, she doesn’t have to say or do anything. Your wife should elevate you to your best self. If she doesn’t, you need to take a deeper look at your relationship. You can get a good idea from your friends and family. Do they say or act differently when you are around her? If it’s in a negative way, that’s not a good sign. A good wife brings out the best in you, a bad wife does the opposite.
6. She Lacks Compassion
Compassion is one of the most important qualities in a marriage so if your wife lacks it, you’re in trouble. The definition of compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering. A compassionate wife is able to recognize when her spouse is suffering in some way. She is loving and kind and can help them move through their process.
Does the woman you’re with possess these qualities? While not every woman displays these qualities, those who do are quite special and deserve to be acknowledged. The woman you are with should add to your life, not take away from it. A good wife puts God first and values her marriage covenant. She will ultimately enhance your life and bring you closer to Christ. If she doesn’t, she’s bad news.