When you got married, I bet you never – in a million years – would have imagined asking yourself, “What if my husband hates me?”
Of course not. When people walk down the aisle, they expect that their spouse will love them, treat them well, be their best friend, and live happily ever after. Then, one day (like today), you find yourself looking for a solution to a problem you never imagined could exist.
Now that we know some of the factors that could lead to resentment and hate in a marriage, let’s look at some of the signs that might tell you that your spouse could possibly hate you. Below are 6 signs that show your lover hates you;
1. You Fight All the Time
Conflict and disagreements aren’t always bad in a relationship. It’s not reasonable to expect two people to get along and agree on absolutely everything.
However, what is always bad is if you fight unfairly and frequently. For example, if one or both of you need to fight to win an argument and be “right,” then that is a very unhealthy way to be in a relationship. If fighting is the cornerstone of your marriage, then that is a sign that one (or both) of you might hate the other.
2. He Hardly Puts Any Effort Into the Marriage
This is closely related to neglect. If he’s not putting any effort into the marriage at all, then he’s neglecting you. It may or may not be because he “hates” you, but it could be.
He should be nice to you, maintain a friendship, be romantic, and be a good partner. But if you feel like he is just your roommate (and maybe not even a friendly one), then that is not a good sign. He might feel like giving up – or already has.
3. You Don’t Have Sleep Together Very Often (If at All)
The difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship/marriage is physical intimacy. That might sound obvious, but, unfortunately, many people find themselves in loveless, sexless marriages.
So, if you can’t remember the last time the two of you touched each other than to hand them something in the kitchen, then the intimacy in your marriage is probably gone. When people are married to someone they don’t like very much anymore, then they will not feel like having sex with them.
4. He Takes You For Granted
In an ideal world, no one should take anyone for granted. However, it seems to happen all the time. Sometimes, it’s just human nature. We get comfortable with the status quo and expect things to always be the same.
However, if you think about it, anything or anyone can be taken away from us at the drop of a hat. So, if you feel used and unappreciated, it could be a sign that he resents you, or maybe even hates you.
5. You Suspect He’s Cheating on You
When someone is feeling resentful toward their spouse, they are probably going to look elsewhere if they get the chance. Now, don’t get me wrong – I am not saying this is okay. In fact, it’s not. Turning outside the marriage does nothing to improve it and everything to destroy it.
But if your spouse has such resentment toward you, then it will make it easier for them to justify their cheating. If they don’t love you anymore, then they probably won’t feel as guilty as if they did.
6. He Is Mentally, Emotionally, and/or Physically Abusive
Abuse is NEVER okay. And I mean NEVER. I don’t care how horrible you were to someone, no one deserves to be abused.
However, it does happen. Usually, a mentally unbalanced person becomes an abuser. They became like that for a variety of reasons in their past that may or may not have anything to do with you.
You could be part of the mix, but if you are getting abused, it could mean that, in addition to other things, he might resent you for something. But that still doesn’t make it alright.