My Dad Is the Biological Father Of Our Children and I Don’t Know How to Tell My Husband That He’s Not Their Father

Hello, my name is Rita, I need advice because I don’t know what to do again. When I was in JSS2, I was in my room that night when daddy came in, sat very close to me and we were talking. Unexpectedly, he began to touch me in a s*xual way. And before I could think about what was happening, he had carnal knowledge of me, taking my dignity as a girl.

I grew up with my father. My Mom left us when I was barely four years old. She left with my elder sister, leaving me with my Dad. I was very close to my Dad. And many people referred to me as his wife. But there was more to what people knew about my Dad and me. TAP HERE TO CONTINUE READING

I was told that when my mother left my dad, his family and even his friends advised him to marry another wife so that the new wife can take care of me but he refused and instead of marrying another wife, he employed a housemaid who took proper care of me. In fact, it was hard for me to believe she was not my mother. My father stood by his word as he chose not to remarry.

My Dad took care of me till I got married at age twenty-six. And I was married to a caring husband and blessed with three lovely children.

However, my father and I continued this shameful act and I started loving him the more. I chose not to voice out because I was enjoying it and he never allowed me to suffer anything.

In my university days, Dad will come to my campus to take me out on weekends. After visiting a lot of places, we will end it in a hotel room. As a result of this act, I lost interest in the opposite s*x, especially when it came to a relationship.

How I finally agreed to marry is still what I can’t explain even now! I got married to my husband, an Engineer, seventeen years ago and we were blessed with three children, a boy and two girls, ages fifteen, thirteen and ten. And my husband is a loving and caring man.

Ola is the name of my husband, he was the elder brother of my roommate on campus and that was how we met. He always came around to see his sister and soonest he picked up interest in me, a year after my NYSC he proposed and we got married.

I remember when my husband and I were still courting I told Ola everything about my family especially about my parents’ separation. I never told him the secret relationship between my dad and I. Even after our marriage, I still visited my Dad often and Ola never complained. My Dad stopped using protection anytime we met after I got married. When I asked him he said I was no longer a kid.

Once, my dad came to our house and our children were in school. My husband nearly caught us in the act but we were lucky. My husband came back home after he had left for work in the morning. He came to pick a file he left at home in the morning.

Sadly, the s*xual relationship with my Dad has produced three children. But things began to fall apart last December when I attended a program at a friend’s church. After listening to the preacher’s message, I felt guilty and wish to repent of my dirty past.

Right now I don’t know what to do. Should I open up to my husband and what will be his reaction when he discovers that none of the children belongs to him? I am 43-year-old now and I am confused, please help me!

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210 Comments

  1. You sinned against God before you sin against your husband. Go to God in sincere prayer of repentance. Cut off the sinful relationship with your father . Afterwards, approach a spiritually mature Pastor for counseling.

    • I am tired of reading, I had to stop! You have ruined yourself and your husband! How on earth did you agree to such a union? It is the worst sexual escapade in the whole wide world! The greatest Abomination and incest, the world condemn, not your cousin nor your neighbors, your biological father? Woman, go and seek forgiveness from your husband and go on self-exile.

      • Victorisalink Dornan
        Victorisalink Dornan

        Please if you want to support her, support her and stop indirectly condemning her, noone is above mistake, everyone has a biggest mistake in life and everyone should be given a second chance in life, so please just support her in changing her ways

        • If you want to make heaven confess and bear the consequences. Let your father receive the shame with you if your husband will not cover you up. That your do called father turned sugar daddy needs to be poisoned. He damaged your life

          • Shut up he is saying d truth
            Shut up he is saying d truth

            He is saying d truth

          • There is no known sin that God cannot forgive. If God can forgive a killer who cannot give life, certainly He shall forgive those that brings and create life even though it’s through the wrong channel. Be a fully repentant Christian and be Prophetess.

          • You are right he deserves to die
            You are right he deserves to die

            This your so called father is your destiny distroyer . But you were a fool for enjoying your your so called father even when you were married.
            You would have choose to marry that man than to get married to another man and still continue to have sex with that man that deserves to die for long because he is a very wicked man anyway just keep it as secret don’t tell your husband Because if you do so your husband will divorce you and get married to another woman and that your father not be taking good care of you as before again. Please be warned
            Or you can do it if you have money to take care of your children and your self and also train them to any level they want in life .
            That is my advice for you. Thank you

          • This is bad though
            At this point, this man cannot come and start marrying again look at your own age and his own
            To me don’t tell me this bitter truth cos I might end up killing myself cos it will tear me apart.
            Ask God for forgiveness and stop this act with your dad.
            Seriously to Me keep this secret till you die
            Na your husband children! Period.

        • Shadrach Chukwuemeka Anekwe
          Shadrach Chukwuemeka Anekwe

          This is a very difficult matter to deal with. Unfortunately, the deed has been done. Thank God that you are tired with the relationship with your father. As a pastor, I will urge you to endearvour to be born again genuinely. Yes, I know that you are regretting your actions… it’s very important for you to make peace with God by receiving Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. Having said that, there’s need to tell your husband everything, especially, the paternity of your children. But you should be prepared for the worst: he will likely divorce you. And if he doesn’t, and forgives you, which is very possible too, I thank God for him. As for the children, they are traditionally and legally his children, because he is the one that paid for your bride price. So your father should not in protest demand for the children, and if he does, your husband should prosecute and jail him. Prison is a place he should belong. Having said that, call your husband on a good day and tell
          him the atrocities you have committed against him, and you are not worthy to be his wife, and are ready to leave his house after now, if he can’t have a place in his heart to forgive you. Then tell him the situation, and plead with him to think about it very well before giving you his verdict. But, I have a question I need to ask you, but I am tempted not to ask you the question, so that it won’t appear that I am blaming you- which is what you don’t need now. However, I will still ask you the question: concerning your father being the biological father of your husband when you live with your husband in your house-does it mean that you were not sleeping with your husband regularly, or that he desn’t have sexual vitality, or that you deliberately went to meet your father each time you have ovulation? Remember, I didn’t ask this question to blame you, but to know if your husband has any underlying health challenge vis-a-vis sexual intercourse. I wish you good luck and pray and hope for an aminable settlement of the problem. As for your dad, he is an enemy of progress and need to be looked at from that perspective. I can’t wait to hear that your lovely husband has forgiven you.

          • God bless you Sir. You are a true man of God with the heart of Jesus.

          • Olamide Olanrewaju
            Olamide Olanrewaju

            God will continue to bless you sir. I love your sense of judgement. May the anointing of God upon you never run dry. You have spoken well sir.

          • Rev'd Caleb Chibua
            Rev'd Caleb Chibua

            Hi colleague, I’ve seen no addition to make on your candid advise to Rita who has tarried in iniquity. I feel like commending your uncommon counsel. One thing, I think this should form a prayer point to us for young men and women who could be in same mess like Rita.

            Yours in His vineyard,
            Rev’d Caleb in Asaba.

          • Thanks Pastor, I share your thoughts on this. She needs our prayer support.

          • You are a wise man sir.God bless you greatly for that wisely advise

          • Oluwole David Kolawole
            Oluwole David Kolawole

            I thank God for your life Man of God. You have given a right counsel. Thanks.

          • Mipaapa Osofopon
            Mipaapa Osofopon

            She needs not to open up to the husband… She should confess to GOD and God alone… Why,? Do you want the husband to collapse or die?? Either she should utilise means to break up or shut up… and pray to God the husbsnd never finds out, fir the secrets things belong to God.. christisns!! They are advising the lady to go confess to the husband without considering the ripple effects that are going to cause not only husband but the innocent children… How will the children see their mother ?a sibling, or a parent?

            What if the husband wasnt aldo able to impregnate her??I think the only thing she ought to do is to cease that filthy relationship with the father , repent seek God’s grace and look to the future… Thevrest is in God’s hands ..

          • Thanks man of God, very few are chosen as the wise men from the East but you are one of them, you did the wise counsel God Almighty bless your service. We need to form a prayer platform remember Rita is not a lone but many are silent with similar situations. Ebenezer.

          • Nice one pastor

        • Mrs Obibi Eunice A.
          Mrs Obibi Eunice A.

          We don’t have to judge her,He is a merciful God. All i want to say is that you have sinned against God and your husband. Your father never loved you because he has just ruined your whole life,please,ask for forgiveness and go with a pastor that has the fear of God and tell him everything without hiding anything before going to your husband with him. It is really a pathetic story i pray that God heal you and your husband.

          Make sure you do paternal test to be sure who your children’s father is before telling your husband that he is not the father of your children.

          • Find a God spirited living word church for counseling after you repent then confess to a man of God who your spirit lead you too. By seeking in prayer before you do a day deliverance too in between you observer 3days fasting and prayer then lay them at his fit with psalm 51 the whole chapter 12am, and 12pm 1 hour each then 6pm each day for 3days then on the last day of that fasting go with the same man of God to confess to your husband may God show you mercy and may your confession not fall into deaf ear of Jesus. May the impact of the pain and suffering not be much on you and your family ijn. Maranatha

          • comrade Mathias
            comrade Mathias

            It’s well with you.
            Though nobody is above mistake but what you need to do is to repent and seek God’s direction first before any other thing.
            Declare 10 days fasting and prayers of forgiveness from God and make sure you do it sincerely and sure before you finish,God might have soften the mind of your husband so that you can go ahead and tell him.

        • Support her for what. The truth must be told. Her actions of sleeping with her dad, bearing children for her dad, deceiving her husband for seventeen years is total wickedness, and should be condemned in its totality. She needs both spiritual and physical cleansing and go to God who she offended abinitio as no man will ever want to live with such murderous monster call woman.

        • Chief Habeeblahi Adebowale Dairo
          Chief Habeeblahi Adebowale Dairo

          Will comment later

        • Dear Madam,
          The best thing that has happened to you now is that you have realized your error.
          Now, accept Jesus Christ into your life, as your Lord and personal Saviour;
          Repent of your sins before God; and, seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit for the next step.
          The Merciful God will deliver you and correct your future, iJn, Amen.

        • Please go before God first, and ask of forgiveness,nd pray to holy spirit to touch the ❤️ heart of your husband. This is Abomination,Aruuu ,Eewoo

        • What did u mean by mistake she knows what she was doing that was the reason she refused to tell her husband

      • Mbia-Asu, Benedict Bessong
        Mbia-Asu, Benedict Bessong

        This is not true. It’s a pure fiction. Even if it was to be true in a dream, you ought not to air it out to anyone in this world. Leave it between you and your God. All secret things are meant for the good Lord, the Most-High God.

        • She needs not to open up to the husband… She should confess to GOD and God alone… Why,? Do you want the husband to collapse or die?? Either she should utilise means to break up or shut up… and pray to God the husbsnd never finds out, fir the secrets things belong to God.. christisns!! They are advising the lady to go confess to the husband without considering the ripple effects that are going to cause not only husband but the innocent children… How will the children see their mother ?a sibling, or a parent?

          What if the husband wasnt aldo able to impregnate her??I think the only thing she ought to do is to cease that filthy relationship with the father , repent seek God’s grace and look to the future… Thevrest is in God’s hands ..

      • Repent of the sin. Ask Jesus to come into your life. Believe that He died on the cross for you so that your sin’s can be forgiven. Fast for three days- 6am to 6pm daily after which you need to meet your Pastor or a genuine Pastor to share your experience with. I believe you need to confess it to your husband with the aid of the Pastor. Possibly, the pastor need to go with you when you will talk with your husband. Your salvation is more important to you than all the enjoyment of life. Its only when you take these steps that you can regain your peace

      • She needs advise, not criticism and chastising…… Not for u to condemn her

    • No comment.

    • What about the children?
      What about the children?

      What about the children, can she give the children to his father or so called husband that’s not their main father?

    • Sir, you have said it all. Great comment.

    • My dear sister, ask for God forgiveness, then stop the relationship with your daddy. Your dad may not agree, but you try and make sure you are never alone with him. Avoid being alone with him. There is no need telling your husband because of the children future. It should be a secret you will keep till you die. You protect your husband and the children. Distance yourself from your Daddy please even if he threatened you. God bless you my dearsister

  2. Masereka Kake Bens
    Masereka Kake Bens

    Pray hard for God to forgive you for you sinned then go to pastor, explain to him so that he should help join you in prayer before you confess to your husband. God will do everything for you.

  3. If this is true n not fabricated then go to God in sincerity n be ready to leave the marriage with the kids, Except the guy can accept that, which if he does then he is the 0.1% of men that can do that.

  4. You have to open up to your husband. Tell the truth and let the devil be put to shame.
    Your husband can forgive you . If still loves you, he will still stay in marriage with you.
    Tell your pastor to pray for you.

    • But I don’t think any man can forgive such

      • Victorisalink Dornan
        Victorisalink Dornan

        Why now, there are men in this world that can forgive such, it’s just that they’re really really really really really rare

        • HAA! YOUVE DONE A GREAT EVIL THAT SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN DONE BY A SANE PERSON. YOUR DAD IS A WICKED N CURSED SOUL. INCEST IS WHAT YOUVE COMMITTED AND A DESTINY HOMICIDE..
          YOU BROUGHT CURSES ON THE SEEDS OF THAT EVIL RELATIONSHIP. THOSE CHILDREN AND THEIR SEEDS ARE UNDER CURSE.
          GET A SPIRIT FILLED PASTOR N HO ALONG WITH YOUR HUSBAND TO CONFESS.
          YOUR HAVE TO CYT OFF FROM THE MAN TGAT LED YOU TO ALTAR.
          HES FREE TO REMARRY. BECAUSE YOU LIED TO HIM AT THE ONSET.

  5. Well, it’s quite unfortunate that these evil deed happened the way we never expected.however,the father should be dealt with,he is a wicked man that God Almighty should punish,for doing the act which is against Gods commandments.futhermore,the only way out is to confess your sins,and see what God will do.but what I see in these act is end time,that people do such evil act where there’s lots of women,u started sleeping with your daughter,may God forgive that foolish,and stupid man for his evil act Amen

    • First pray to God seeking for forgiveness before informing both the husband and then parent about the matter.

      • U are a fool for u to continue sleeping with ur ur father after u got married may God have mercy upon u and ur father shambles father
        U are a fool for u to continue sleeping with ur ur father after u got married may God have mercy upon u and ur father shambles father

        U are a fool for u to continue to sleeping with ur father after getting married u still sleeping with ur shameless father

        • A great fool and an idiot who does that.shamelesds devil
          A great fool and an idiot who does that.shamelesds devil

          You’re a pathetic cheater and an idiot,who does that your own dad fucking you, shameless old man too.Repent and take those God forsaken bustsrds yo your father.Am very annoyed with you

          • So on you own opinion you are saying she should return the children to the father and go back to the to start a new family or what, please explain ok.

        • Confess your sins and foresake them and will have mercy. Then stop with your so called father because he is a devil.pls don’t tell your husband because there scares u must cover

        • Terrible! I don’t know how to react to this one’o!

  6. You have not done well first forgive urself then leave the house and write a letter to your husband and children telling them the truth then live in peace with GOD

    • Continue with your repentance act، but make it a secret between God and you.
      God is not like human being, He forgives and forgets

      • What about the husband she has wronged, who may live to die without offspring. Better to confess and let GOD handle the rest.

    • You and your father have sown the wind. You will reap whirlwind. Yet God has no interest in the death of a sinner. So He will forgive you when you confess and accept Jesus as Lord and savior. Then go to anointed men of God to counsel you on what to do. I am talking of people like W.F Kumuyi, Adeboye, Olukoya, and Muoka. There is no sin too big that the blood of Jesus can not cleanse. But get ready for the pain this might bring.

      • Patrick Olisa Dibie
        Patrick Olisa Dibie

        To be sleeping with your own Father freely for many years and even after your marriage is terrible.
        Please, first do a DNA test to ensure that the one you refer to as your Father, is truly your Father.

        Afterwards, confess to an Elder in the Church or your community for spiritual,mental, psychological and traditional cleansing, ratification, restitution and direction.
        Do not harm yourself. If you are willing,God and Man can help you.
        The elderly one is more to blame.
        Stop the secret things. Good luck.
        I pray for you to help yourself and be better Amen

  7. I suggest you go to that pastor whose preaching ‘convicted’ you and ask him for counsel. Be prepared to do whatever your God instructs you to do. Nothing is beyond God so far so you are soncere, willing and exercise faith

  8. Continue with your repentance act، but make it a secret between God and you.
    God is not like human being, He forgives and forgets

    • Hello sir, making it secret like you suggested doesn’t show any sign of repentance. Her condemnable act has remained a secret for decades now and now that she has realized her shortcoming you still edge her to keep it secret? If she does, the secret will hid her in an early grave because abomination kills.
      Thanks.

  9. You have seen yourself as a sinner. First thing to do now is to go before God, confess that sin and forsake it (read Prob. 28:13). After that, you also need to open up to your husband and tell him everything but you can do it by yourself because it is a serious matter. So you have to look for a God fearing, a trusted and truthful man of God who will be an intermediary between you and your husband in this matter. He will be the one to tell your husband what has happened on your behalf, and use the wisdom of God to settle it. But if you go by yourself, know that you have become an ex-wife be that.

  10. My dear friend,
    You owe nobody an apology for your situation. Time and situation happen to all of us. Don’t feel any remorse or guilt, don’t allow anyone who has not been in your situation advice you. Every woman has innermost secrecy that if we are opportuned to hear it, we will certainly call for their heads. Leave Pastor or Alfa alone. Talk to your God, seek forgiveness and go and sin no more. Keep your home. By default, your children must carry your parents blood and genes. Keep your secret and remain at peace with life and yourself. Don’t invite unnecessary trouble. Some people live with worst situation than yours. SHALOM.

    • Musonda Richard mwape
      Musonda Richard mwape

      Even Deliverance should be there, and give ur kids to ur present husband. Never should think about your father’s character’s. I think your father cannot take it has his kids, and don’t tell your husband about the ,,,kids,,

    • I found your comment so meaningful and genuine. That is the most workable advice so far.
      I found your comment so meaningful and genuine. That is the most workable advice so far.

      Let her be with God, remain in your marriage. 80% of children nowadays are not fathered by their known fathers

    • Thank you Sir.
      There are lots of hypocrites in this world. Jesus told those that brought the adulterous woman that was cut in the very act ”anyone who has no sin cast the first stone and they all went away shamefully” The same with this generation.

    • 1.Do a DNA test for the 3 children to be very sure of your assumptions.
      2.Observe a day of fasting/praying for forgiveness,cleansing,Holy Spirit leadership and for God to touch your husband as to also guide/guard him from evil effect bcoz it’s capable of causing someone heart attack or stroke.
      3.Tell the same story to 2 or 3 men and a lady so that they can come to your home or a designated place where your husband would be briefed,if need be,at least 2 or 3 policemen could be there to eliminate violent attack from your husband.
      4.If your husband forgives you,fine and good but if he doesn’t,follow the decisions he takes,bcoz you went too far.
      5.Is your husband impotent? If he isn’t,then you are more wicked than anyone can think.If he is,u could have asked for divorce from the beginning bcoz an impotent man mustn’t ask for a lady’s hand in marriage.You destroyed marriage Institution,beg God very well to forgive u.

    • Dear Olaleye, how do you think that one can have a peaceful life when a secret of such magnitude is covered beneath. The conscience, no matter how dead now must come up alive to condemn his victim.
      Please dear let’s not endorse the culture of impunity where you smile and make light of things that are all important. Plz, on your own interest do open up and forsake any similar life if any. Jesus loves you.
      Thanks.

  11. First pray to God seeking for forgiveness before informing both the husband and then parent about the matter.

  12. Your father is sick! To undress before his biological daughter is mind-boggling to any sane human being. Sexual relationships between step father and step daughter tend to be common, though immoral. I have three beautiful daughters now in their 30s, and I couldn’t even get myself to change their diapers as infants, because I saw my mother in each one of them and that has been the flavor of our love to date! Your dad betrayed your trust when he turned on you. This mess is more his fault than yours.

  13. It’s a very serious matter. About 17 years of marriage, & now you say that the children belongs to your biological father : Hmmmmmm. The way forward is to sincerely repent, then tell your father , that you have repented & that he should find his soulmate, then be very honest to your husband to the end of your life. The children belongs to your husband, not your father, since you have been legall married to him. If, you dare open up to your husband, you will likely loss him, your father, in-laws, relations, friends, your dignity as a woman etc. It is not a must that, in every sin, you must go to a man of God, just sincerely repent & move on with your life. Cheers & all the best madam Rita.

    • Dear Otobo, may I ask, where is the sincerity of the repentance if you can’t walk up to a spiritual father over you?
      Can you win a case that you kept hidden sensitive aspect of it to your lawyer?
      Can you be well cured of an ailment that you refuse to reveal to your doctor? Think about it.
      Thanks.

      • Caleb, what do you mean spiritual father. Is she repenting to man or God? Let her sincerely repent to God then tell her father of her new resolution. The husband should never know about it. What good will it bring if the husband and kids know?

  14. Musa Aliyu (AbbaTurare)
    Musa Aliyu (AbbaTurare)

    Which played gone do,hi these is too bad,babe you were sucks a Dad cock?no be shy..heeeaahh, you gone be Spartacus f**kin life astray so, pray to God with fresh mind an asking for his forgiveness,and avoid ur dad fucking think and bored him with his negative mad 🐕 dog think. Safe.i am so sorry for you my Dear.

  15. Madam
    This is Sin and more so with your father thenhe father’s your children..
    1:This your father is a beast infact he is a beast not a father
    2: You enjoyed having sex with your father that long.
    3: How will look at your children and your husband and tell them
    4: Please deal with this issue yourself otherwise it will haunt you to the grave
    5: Stop cohabittong with your father you seem to be having large appetite for him
    6: Lastly repent and just seek God , coz some things are even awkward to mention before people
    I have no word on this it’s just had to comprehend I am a father of a girl and no single day av admired her I can admire other women outside But NOT her

  16. Ainamasiko stephen
    Ainamasiko stephen

    Just be mature enough.If you feel it’s too much to contain first decide to go back to your father’s home for the true marriage.when your husband follows you there openly reveal everything in the presence of your father.That will enable the two to decide who to take you and if your father is to leave you,it will be done.That is when you will have peace of mind

  17. What are you to repent or tell your husband?? already you have done the worst of the worst… your age nothing can change.. just be nice to your man and if your husband feel like remarry don’t object he may Wish to see his real Kids… Madness Madness!!

  18. Tell your husband the truth, and seek for forgiveness, and your bad too,

  19. Is this a story to be publicized?.The shame accompanying such acts done repeatedly will destroy the morality of our children.Women confess these shameful acts with pride and then ask for people’s advice or opinion.
    My advice is: All people should condemn in strong terms and also refuse to acknowledge that these acts is abomination and refuse to even dignify such with a response or publishing.

  20. Very correct no body should know about it confess to God only and stop any evil thing u have with ur father

    • This should be between you and your God, confess to God and stop the evil act, or else it can cause the death of your husband

  21. Tell the truth and shame the devil, but with wisdom. First of all, tell your Daddy that you can not continue in the illicit act. Then, share your experience with a mature Christian, preferably a Pastor who will present the matter to your husband with the wisdom of God. Any consequences is the punishment for your sin.

  22. Make peace with God and yourself, keep the truth to yourself, don’t distroy the peace of the marriage, tell your father you realise it is a sin he engaged you in so you have repented so he should never bother you again with that abomination act if he will not repent then stay faithful to your husband and build a sincere relationship with God.

    • Please save your marriage and ask God to forgive you for your sins.keep it for yourself as a secret even don’t even tell the human being.eg pastor because tomorrow he will expose you.

  23. You ‘re in a very tight conner, but there is always room for amendment if you sincerely desire one. First settle with God in all sincerity and turn away from your dirty game with your father. When you ‘re convinced of divine forginess, be ready to face and bear whatever your husband decides to do. Go-ahead and confess to him and let h know you’re ready bear whatever the consequences are as long as you have your life to live. Pray and pray through before taken any step. May God help you out. He never casts away anyone that sincerely comes to him peace

  24. Pls sister don’t tell anyone about that, if You still love your husband bcozs if u tell him that will be the end of your relationship with him,what u should do stop doing that sinful things with your father, continue with your husband.

    • Where is the love in the first place, I just feel for the children
      Where is the love in the first place, I just feel for the children

      The children have a father and grandfather in the same man?
      Woman you also have some level of beast in you, YOU HAVE TO GO FOR STRONG DELIVERANCE, ALSO YOUR FATHER;
      Then husband needs his own bloodline GOD covenanted blessed Children, for this your husband deserve better things of life. LORD JESUS CHRIST, HAVE MERCY.

    • Sir, she has realized that what she did is a great wrong,so she can't live a pretentious life with her husband.Her thoughts will continue to huant her for life..
      Sir, she has realized that what she did is a great wrong,so she can't live a pretentious life with her husband.Her thoughts will continue to huant her for life..

      To me let her pack d children to her father’s hse afterwards get married to him after a DNA test.It will b difficult 4 her to leave this sex ual relationship with her dad.If she can do this for dat long with her father under her husband’s roof.

  25. This is serious case I think telling ur husband is another problem real problem except by God grace to accept it if it will be very hard for the husband to accept these children’s

  26. At Any time choose to do the right thing

  27. Your father is to be blamed for everything. But my sincere advice is for you to confess your sins to your maker and forsake them. You don’t have to tell your husband about it because if you do, you may push him to his early grave and it may also cause you your life too having known that you wasted his life for good 17years without a child to call his own. Please don’t tell him oo all you need do is to repent and amend your ways.

  28. It’s only one Tijani Abdullahi that has advised you traditionally and the only way forward. Stop your relationship with your dad. It is called insest otherwise known as abomination. You Will die with it. But ask God for forgiveness and stop this filthy act. Good luck to you.

  29. Rita.Be at peace in Jesus Christ mighty name. Grace is sufficient. The Lord is ready to forgive you. Man will judge you definitely but I want to prophetically from my prophetic office advise you: God is neither your father nor your husband nor your mother.Stand and serve God in sincerity, showing total repentance from the Lord God. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God…Repent and if possible let me talk to your husband to intermediate you good people. You are welcome to my church.

  30. Don’t ever tell anybody woman, your husband may kill you, even your father can commit suicide, you are not the first, beg God to forgive you and stop the act. Once, again don’t say because you are born again Christian, and begin to confess rubbish, your husband is an ordnary human, your pastor too have secret, everybody has dark side. Keep quiet.

  31. Make sure you genuinely repent and cut off dirt relationship with your daddy. When God forgives He forgets. Don’t get over-righteous counseling. Don’t do it again is what matter to God. If you tell your husband you will cause him heart pain for life or he can die as a result, your children will continue to be sorrowful and all the lots after.

  32. Shitta Aremu Fatai
    Shitta Aremu Fatai

    My own suggestions is going to be a little bit different from those that have been advice since. First and foremost, seek for your God’s forgiveness and talk to your father to stop this sinful act with you. Then, you move on with your life with your husband, you might be lucky to give him his own children, so, if he eventually know that the first three kids are not his, he may be forced to reduce his anger over you . That’s my advice for you.

  33. Well,once your father didn’t know he owns the children, firstly forgive yourself for the act you displayed,then ask God for forgiveness, secondly be upright and sincere with your husband,a lots of people saying this and that here have a worst act than yours,God is the only person that know those who serve him genuinely,be close to your Creator with a good heart, shalom.

  34. Shameful and painful
    However, there is no sin God cannot forgive if the repentance and confession in from genuineness
    Then don’t be in a hurry to tell your husband
    The children are still his children in spite of the process of their birth

    Keep away from that sinfulness with your father
    Hold on to your husband
    Forgive yourself and accept God’s forgiveness
    Don’t broadcast your sin when the Almighty God has forgiven You

    Wait on God, allowing Him handle the process of notifying your husband if necessary at His own timing!

  35. Olabamiji Oluwole
    Olabamiji Oluwole

    Yours situaton is really critical and needed caution. Pls, put your faith in your God for the forgiveness. Never vomit anything to anybody be it your husband, friends, and pastors. It is a great sin upon you and your father you have to be living the rest of your life crying and sobering to your creator sincerely until you receive the evidence that He has forgiven you. Human will only complicate your trouble, mock and have your generation condemned. Never till the end of your life return to that iniquity. I pray God have you forgiven. pls try hard for your wards not to carry same sin.

  36. Madam,
    The most important aspect of everything now is that you have realized your shortcomings. Sincerely accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal saviour. Repent of your sin and move ahead. Do not discuss any of such ill past with your husband or pastor. Nobody will hear of this act and applaud you. Everyone has his or her own odd past. Note that this act is abominable, if you voice it out to anyone, be it a pastor or your best friend, remember the walls have ears. If your children hear about it, they will not forgive you, because they will always be mocked by their peers or relations. Just sincerely stop the evil act, preach to your father also to repent. God is a love. Remember to err is human and to forgive is God. I come in peace.

  37. First thing, it’s good that you have seen yourself as a sinner, go and repent your sins to the Almighty and do not open up to your husband about the the children because it’s so difficult for your father to take them as his children now , so just repent and God will surely open up for you

  38. Confess your sins to God, forgive yourself and your father. Start 100% honesty to your husband. Keep your secret for sake of peace and to save the name of your children.

  39. You have already confessed to your husband because this place is a public domain. Unless this story is fabricated.

  40. Stop the evil act. Tell your father you are a new creature in the Lord. He should never touch you again
    Then repent to God.
    Continue with your family and love the children.

  41. If you are truly sorry about this, do your repentance to God, confess the escapades with your dad to a trusted man of God. Then do a paternity test for the three kids to be very sure. If all of them or some are positive, go back to the man of God and follow his counsel. May God have mercy on you and your dad.

  42. When you are not first person to perform this evil act in life but inafvice you to go back to God and confess your sin. God has not done with you.
    When you are not first person to perform this evil act in life but inafvice you to go back to God and confess your sin. God has not done with you.

    Ask God to forgive you, He is waiting for your genuine repentance. To err is human but forgiveness is divine

    • Confess this sin unto God genuinely, repent and forsake it. Then go for counselling. I wondered why people are still condemning her. Please leave the judgement for God. Advice her if you could or zip your mouth that you will not be condemned yourself!

  43. Chisom david isaac
    Chisom david isaac

    Well all I believe is this👉 no ONE or anybody should judge before God almighty,so all you have to do is this, first of all fast for two weeks and pray for forgiveness of sins to God almighty,then you melo and bring your style to go and beg and make sure you will be crying and begging him first 👉 your husband before telling him what happened and make sure you are always humble with that, please 🙏 and you shall be forgiven because you didn’t kill and I also hope you didn’t did arbotion when you started with your dad? Take care that’s my advice.

  44. peoplepowerwomen@gmail.com
    peoplepowerwomen@gmail.com

    FAST FOR ONE WEEK TAKING ONLY LIQUIDS TO ASKK FOR GOD’S FORGIVENESS AND ENSURE THAT YOU HAVE A FRIEND PRODUCE A CHILD FOR YOUR HUSBAND. DON’T TELL HIM BECAUSE HE WILL DIE

  45. Foolish stupid girl to enjoy the very penis that sired you. Go ahead and confess your sins. But remember if your Hubby knows, that’s the end of your marriage madam bitch

  46. hi my dear talk to your father and break up with him .don’t confess to any pastor for he is not an.angel and will expose you.confessing to a pastor means the end of your marriage,but this would not help the children and your self.make a prayer of repentance and 💔 up with the old man secretly to save your marriage and the future of your children.never talk of it to any one again stay blessed

  47. Unshakable Rockman
    Unshakable Rockman

    Before such confession be made, you have to first of all meet your pastor for proper counselling , you can’t just go and start vomiting things before your husband. Wisdom must be applied in that issue.

    • It is nothing but fabrication
      Nevertheless the house got problem from where the wife of the man left the house leaving the female child with the man. That little girl then hardly knew what implication has the act the father wss putting up to her. The err from where he chose not to remarried. If he had done such to the housemaid, he should have been justified. The lady should explain to her husband and ask for forgiveness and repent. The father also to confess and ask for forgiveness from his son in-law. The duo father and daughter should go to God for forgiveness.

  48. You better live and die with this secret.never try to revail this henious abominable secret to that innocent loving and good hearted husband of yours.Such a good man doesn’t deserve an everlasting irridemable heart breaks. please I beg you in name of God.just prepare your mind to live and die with such secret.on the side of your father u better stop it and seek for forgiveness from God so that the curse shall not befall your innocent children

  49. There are secret things in this world o, almost every woman alive or dead, starting from Eve, has one secret or the other. I don’t even know which advice to give you, I’m just pitying the man now, to be impregnated by your biological dad while in your matrimonial home, is scary to believe, only GOD knows the perfect advice to give you

  50. U need to leave this world for your husband and children to live as family. Do not confess anything to him because it’s really bad to hear…

  51. No one I talking about this innocent children, their reactions and what they’re to faced, woman forget being forgiven. Let’s tell ourselves the truth no man in his right senses will accept you and that this act of yours. by telling your husband have it in your mind he’s no more your husband, even your children will hate you, you’ll be alone just like Cane in the Bible. I so pitied those children of URS without a father.
    Does your father knows that he owned those chicken? Let no one sweet mouthwash you you are on your own. Congrats

  52. You have sin against God, your husband and yourself. However, there’s no sin that is unforgivable if you sincerely repented and ask God to forgive you.
    The first step you will take is to meet the pastor that preach the message that makes you to repent or any genue man of God and seek for counseling on how to go about it and possible prayers.
    Secondly, reduce your contact with your father and pick more interest in your husband and the children.
    Thirdly, accept the decision of your husband and at the initial stage when the matter came up. He will later accept you back. The Lord will have His way in resolving it in Jesus name.
    Thank you.

  53. There is no household without a skeleton in the cupboard. The world over is a world of sinners .Even the pope himself have got something secret which he will never tell the world till death. Be strong and live life to the full. But be bold enough to let your father know that you cannot go on betraying your matrimonial husband. It’s absurd.

  54. Well, quite a sin you committed. Know that it wasn’t from you but the 😈. Repentance is what you need. Truth lags behind but it always comes up, can’t stay hidden. It’s gonna be a trying moment but you will have the Grace of God. You will have to pray and fast before you confess to your husband to minimize damage. Pray for him. But fast Accept Christ as Savior, be born again. You can whatsapp me me +256776697397.Um a Bible

  55. Just bear in mind that God forgives our sins and forgets about them immediately. But this sin is an incest, very bad and needs an atonement, u must confess it to your husband, there are consequences nd which are loosing your marriage, kids, friends nd family members nd so on.

  56. The stories I come across here daily make wonder if some of these stories are real or fabricated. I can’t just wrap my head around it

  57. First and foremost I thank you Rita for for courageousness and boldness to share your hard experience on social media.
    My sole advice for you is that God has been waiting for the right time despite all the evil happening to you and the right time is the time your heart was convinced by His Word. God is calling you to confess your sins and begin a new and righteous life in that church. As some of the friends have advised you .
    If the Spirit of God says tell your husband please don’t hesitate but first undergo the council of the man of God and you too continue serving God in prayer and in His words for the strength and wisdom.
    Stop now flirting with dad cause his time is over.

  58. You dey smart

  59. As a pychologist and a Pastor, I will advise that, you repent genuinely, caution your father to stay clear and never tell your husband or anybody again for the sake of your children and what people will say. The truth is God has not condemned you and I will never condemn you. Be of good cheer, I believe God has forgiven. Thanks

  60. My sister I do understand you, go to God kneel down and ask for forgiveness , and don’t tell your pastor nor ur husband anything,
    My reasons .
    1) ur pastor will used u as a topic in the church,
    2) he is a humanbeing too
    3) don’t u ever confence to ur husband , he will push u and ur children out and remarry is humanbeing too, thats my advice for u

    No one is perfect ok.

  61. I don’t really like this kind of abominable fiction…

  62. Benson Sonny Albert
    Benson Sonny Albert

    How do you know that all the children belonged to your dad? Do you mean you were not having sexual inter course with your husband? Did you conduct any DNA to proved that none of those children belonged to your husband? These are some questions that are begging for answers.

  63. Oluwole adeogun oyebanji
    Oluwole adeogun oyebanji

    Wow I don’t think all these scriplous act still coexist in this present generation of ours but you have to let the cat off the bag and stop beating about the bush ,I believe if he’s truly yours he’ll bear it

  64. Go to that Pastor where you heard the message that convicted you. Open up without reservation all your ordeals. Let God see you broken and sober as the Pastor leads you to Christ. Whatever you are told to do will certainly be directed of God. If you obey, you will be totally set free and whatever follows will be testimonies of freedom

  65. 1.Do a DNA test for the 3 children to be very sure of your assumptions.
    2.Observe a day of fasting/praying for forgiveness,cleansing,Holy Spirit leadership and for God to touch your husband as to also guide/guard him from evil effect bcoz it’s capable of causing someone heart attack or stroke.
    3.Tell the same story to 2 or 3 men and a lady so that they can come to your home or a designated place where your husband would be briefed,if need be,at least 2 or 3 policemen could be there to eliminate violent attack from your husband.
    4.If your husband forgives you,fine and good but if he doesn’t,follow the decisions he takes,bcoz you went too far.
    5.Is your husband impotent? If he isn’t,then you are more wicked than anyone can think.If he is,u could have asked for divorce from the beginning bcoz an impotent man mustn’t ask for a lady’s hand in marriage.You destroyed marriage Institution,beg God very well to forgive u.

  66. What God needs sincerity in repentance. Promise God and nature you won’t do it again no matter the circumstances. Stop bordering yourself God has forgiven and for the sake of peace for your home, children, and everybody they children are of your husband and yours. Parents adopts and still cherish it yet none of them has blood Link to the adopted child. But your case is far better than adoption. Jesus did not come to condemn but bring to repentance. Letting your husband or his people or anybody to know will cause harm of derision as condemnation Jesus did not come..

  67. This is terrible. Your dad is one of descendant of devil, he is evil, he made you too to became same. If you want forgiveness for you and your so call Dad, expose him ,now and let the two of you start bearing the consequence of your evil and abomination act right away. Your children will bear same, bcos you brought them through doom for doom. Severe punishment awaits your dad and and you too. May God forgive you all

  68. Olamide Olanrewaju
    Olamide Olanrewaju

    God will continue to bless you sir. I love your sense of judgement. May the anointing of God upon you never run dry. You have spoken well sir.

  69. This matter is a hard one to deal with, but since you feel guilty of your actions, just repent let mature pastor pray over you and let God lead you He can not fail you

  70. What God needs sincerity in repentance. Promise God and nature you won’t do it again no matter the circumstances. Stop bordering yourself God has forgiven and for the sake of peace for your home, children, and everybody they children are of your husband and yours. Parents adopts and still cherish it yet none of them has blood Link to the adopted child. But your case is far better than adoption. Jesus did not come to condemn but bring to repentance. Letting your husband or his people or anybody to know will cause harm of derision as condemnation Jesus did not come..

  71. The person you called your husband is not even your husband biblically speaking, because that Union was built on a faulty foundation. Built on lies,immoralities, falsehood. You don’t have a marriage. You only have an extension of your sexual escapes. My advice,confess to your husband and whatever decision he takes will be your lot.
    Both of you should also go and see the pastor who wedded the two of you.
    And of course the children you have with your father are your younger brothers-they should be taken to your father.And pray for mercy.Because only God can repair the damage you and your father have done to your husband and those children. Peace!!!

  72. Hmmmm.
    This hard to chip in.
    Talk to God in prayers, knowing fully well no man would like hear such about children he believed his. Lord mercy will help u, but .🙏🙏🙏🙏

  73. First and foremost, ask God forgiveness, #2. Go for DNA test..
    #3. Desire to open up to your husband with your pastor or counsellor for forgiveness and ready to give him his own child (ren) if he has pardoned you.
    Stop all the evils and turn a new person. No body is above error.
    Note: if you divorce and died, your children may suffer thesame danger of single parent. This is common to among the single parent and stepfather/ stepmother.
    Think wisely

  74. Restitution is very important in this christian journey. Let the pastor counsel you and lead you on what to do according to the leading of the Holy Spirit. Mercy will prevail.

  75. Please dear sister to sin is human,but Almighty God says, even if your sins are as red as scarlet
    He can still wash them as white as snow as long you accept him as your saviour.
    Please remember the parable of the shepherd with 100 sheep in which one got lost leaving 99 sheep, but later found. You’re the one. Please confess and return to the Saviour.
    .

  76. Rev'd Caleb Chibua
    Rev'd Caleb Chibua

    Hi colleague, I’ve seen no addition to make on your candid advise to Rita who has tarried in iniquity. I feel like commending your uncommon counsel. One thing, I think this should form a prayer point to us for young men and women who could be in same mess like Rita.

    Yours in His vineyard,
    Rev’d Caleb in Asaba.

  77. Thank God for your sense of sanity now, confuse to God for HE alone can forgive. Then curt of such dirty art between you both. Mine you don’t tell your husband no matter how you fell let that secret die with you for the sake of those children.

  78. Charles Chinedu Emenyionu
    Charles Chinedu Emenyionu

    Ask God for forgiveness and direction on how to go about it. Tell your pastor if you have a church you attend if not tell the pastor that preached that sermon.

  79. Thank God for your sense of sanity now, confuse to God for HE alone can forgive. Then curt of such dirty art between you both. Mine you don’t tell your husband no matter how you fell let that secret die with you for the sake of those children. It still part of life move on…let no one push you to tell your husband because if you do, you will regret the day you were born by his actions.

  80. Bro. Alakali Terkaa
    Bro. Alakali Terkaa

    In addition to what Pastor Anekwe said, I will advice you should inform your dad’s pastor who properly pastored you and did the marriage counseling for you before your marriage/wedding. Also, to avoid any hard break which might make ur hubby to hit u down during ur confession to him, pls kindly inform your present pastor. Tell him everything, he should be the one to arrange for a meeting for u and ur hubby which he must be in attendance. God will see u through and He will forgive u including ur hubby. You have taken the right step for ur repentance. If u had cover this and perhaps you answer God’s call (death), u wouldn’t have made it to heaven. Conclusively, have you done any DNA test on ur three children to back up ur claim?

  81. Bro. Alakali Terkaa
    Bro. Alakali Terkaa

    In addition to what Pastor Anekwe said, I will advice you should inform your dad’s pastor who properly pastored you and did the marriage counseling for you before your marriage/wedding. Also, to avoid any hard break which might make ur hubby to hit u down during ur confession to him, pls kindly inform your present pastor. Tell him everything, he should be the one to arrange for a meeting for u and ur hubby which he must be in attendance. God will see u through and He will forgive u including ur hubby. You have taken the right step for ur repentance. If u had cover this and perhaps you answer God’s call (death), u wouldn’t have made it to heaven. Conclusively, have you done any DNA test on ur three children to back up ur claim?

  82. May the spirit of God never depart from you sir! I read your comment and I stop reading others because I have actually gotten what I wanted God bless you sir

    • You have done the unspeakable ,
      Go to God in prayer ,take a decision now,understand you have wronged right round,with heart of sincerity go to your husband and disclose this to him,
      Accept whatsoever that might be his reactions.
      May God help you .

  83. Simon Amegashie-Viglo
    Simon Amegashie-Viglo

    It rather unfortunate your biological Dad is such a morally bankrupt person who had the gut to so brutally dehumanise you. You are such a wicked person to have continued the abomination of sleeping with your biological father, even after marriage. Repent and stop committing this abominable act and tell your Dad to leave you alone.

  84. Simon Amegashie-Viglo
    Simon Amegashie-Viglo

    It is rather unfortunate your biological Dad is such a morally bankrupt person who had the gut to so brutally dehumanise you. You are such a wicked person to have continued the abomination of sleeping with your biological father, even after marriage. Repent and stop committing this abominable act and tell your Dad to leave you alone.

  85. The only thing you have to do is to sit your children’s down and tell them the truth about all your stories and write a letter down to your husband the reason of leaving him with those innocent children and go far away so that man can continue with his life

  86. You are useless & shameful to human woo..u better confess ur ugly sin and free that man… so call your husband to get married to another woman & enjoy is married…u better repent…madam enjoy

  87. Pastor from Kenya
    Pastor from Kenya

    Don’t tell your husband for your children shake although this the greatest sin you have done to yourself and to God what good will you do to your husband by telling him nothing you will hurt him do this confess all your sins to God those telling you to tell your husband did they confess everything to their husband. if what I can tell you will hurt you and destroy what was good why do it pray that he will never know about your dark past because if somebody kill your child and later regret and feel sorry and confess to God and you have no idea that he or she killed your child and maybe he is your wife . there no need to confess that sins if God have forgiven you you will ruin your life by doing so

  88. Shadrach S. Forleh
    Shadrach S. Forleh

    The deal has been done. Divorce your husband and marry your father, since you love doing this with him. Or better still maintain the both and continue your deal girl. One day they all will die, and replace them with your only son or brother to keep doing your work since he’s the direct replica of your father.

    • My we all have sinned against God… but this is more important for you to know and understand believe it real in yourself

      **However, if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves, pray, search for me, and turn from their evil ways, then I will hear ⌞their prayer⌟ from heaven, forgive their sins, and heal their country. My eyes will be open, and my ears will pay attention to those prayers at this place.
      2 Chronicles 7:14‭-‬15 GW
      *God sent his Son into the world, not to condemn the world, but to save the world. Those who believe in him won’t be condemned. But those who don’t believe are already condemned because they don’t believe in God’s only Son.
      John 3:17‭-‬18 GW

  89. Mumu. Daughter of perdition. U want my advise, abi? Now listen to my candid advice, confess to ur husband and ask ur dad to pay ur dowry and move and live with him officially as husband and wife. At the news go trend well and did go fit mek una name enter for Guinness book. Na as ur dad tek fuck u na so ur sons go still fuck u one by one. What goes around comes around. So shall it continue. Nonsense.

  90. This is one of the bad experiences a lot of girls pass through a broken home. I give God the glory for your step towards living a redefined life.
    I encourage you to take this moment of change very serious in your life. Make sure that your repentance is absolute without any reservation. Approaching God for forgiveness and cleansing is the right thing you have done.
    I strongly advise you to first let your father know your decision to give your life to God without any reservation and from now henceforth you have put an end to such evil relationship you have been with him. Tell him that you appreciate him to be your father and that he remain your father only on that ground.
    On the hand if your repentance is sincerer and genuine, l think telling your husband about the dirty life you have lived is not necessary provided you henceforth do all you can to love him genuinely.
    Take your time to study the bible and pray to have deeper relationship with God.

  91. There is a terrible demon of incest running in your family. Your biological mother that left may be your father’s relative. She has to quit. A foundational terrible spirit is at work here. High Level Deliverance is recommended. Confessing to your husband will be suicidal. Ask GOD for deliverance & forgiveness & be free from the “YOLK” FIRST.

  92. I'm. 100% with Emmanuel. God does not think the way we do. He doesn't want a broken home.
    I'm. 100% with Emmanuel. God does not think the way we do. He doesn't want a broken home.

    Emmanuel’s submission is 100% ok.
    God does not think the way we do. Heis far above us in all-round thoughts. He doesn’t want a broken home or bloodshed from our negative zelousness in revealing to the other person “I have sinned against you”.
    Immaging you going to a woman’s husband saying you have screwed his wife four or five times last October, and today you have been led by the Holy Spirit to come and confess your sin against him to him. He would smile and welcome you very well. The next thing you would see is that he would go into his room without rushing bring out his doubled barell, send you and the so called wife to Hades. “It is finished”.

  93. Olayiwola Jonh Christopher
    Olayiwola Jonh Christopher

    Emmanuel’s submission is 100% ok.
    God does not think the way we do. Heis far above us in all-round thoughts. He doesn’t want a broken home or bloodshed from our negative zelousness in revealing to the other person “I have sinned against you”.
    Immaging you going to a woman’s husband saying you have screwed his wife four or five times last October, and today you have been led by the Holy Spirit to come and confess your sin against him to him. He would smile and welcome you very well. The next thing you would see is that he would go into his room without rushing bring out his doubled barell, send you and the so called wife to Hades. “It is finished”.

  94. To err is human, to forgive is divine. What has gone wrong indeed has done irreparable damage. It happened to lessson us to abstain from unholy act. No man can repare the damage but with Allah nothing is impossible. Decision is in the hand of the duo sinners. Confession or no confession, the damage is irreparable. May Allah forgive us all. Our own secret that God is covering for us is more irritating than what we are commenting on. Let’s look at ours and seek forgiveness for them and leave the judgement to Allah!
    May God forgive all.

  95. donald kimingichi
    donald kimingichi

    Repent.This means to turn away from all your earthly ways.You are a sinner not because of
    your sexual relationship with your father.Sin is sin.accept that you are a sinner and that Jesus christ have mercy on you.confess before jesus christ.Get Spiritual leader to pray with you.Continue in the teachings.Dont tell nor confess this past to your husband.u can call me for more detailed counsel on this number 0716028500

  96. This is very much incredible to a man to forgive, but with God all things are possible. Young woman, you truly had a strong mind set doing such abomination. May your husband forgive you, and accept any outcome for confession before him.

  97. The very reason Jesus was born on earth was to save man from sin. All of us are sinners and have fallen short of God’s glory including those that are condemning. No sin greater than the other. This is why it is written “the wages of sin is death”.
    Man was destined to die when he first sinned but God through love he sent his only begotten son that none of his children should perish including you my sister. Jesus blood paid it all. Do you remember the woman caught in the very act of aldutery and brought to Jesus. She was forgiven and given another chance. She served God the rest of her remaining life.
    On what to do. Repent and tell your father of your decision and ask him to repent. The husband should not be told. It is not necessary. It will bring more harm than good.
    God bless you

  98. My dear sister, try and get pregnant for your husband before it to late. Why can’t your husband pregnant you. Since how many years now . Sincerely you no try for that man. Let him pregnant you and have a child for him. Before you exposed your self. This is a lesson for everyone of us.

  99. Sometimes I find it hard to believe things I read online here if they are really true, or they are some fairy tales put up just to excite some readers. Can someone out there truely clarify or authenticate if this stories are true. Cos I can’t imagine a sane father, educated for that matter do this kind of thing. Instead why don’t u commune with your daughter to either get her friend or a woman for u, rather your own very daughter, ah.Your daughter? May God help us.

  100. What have you gotten yourself into, after many years of ilicit act with your biological father before marriage you still went and got pregnant for your dad thrice, both of you committed adultery before God Almighty and you must ask for forgiveness from God, thereafter usher in a man of God including your dad and your husband before bringing up that ilicit act between you and your dad which produced children and all belongs to your dad, then you can begin to speak by telling them alll what happened and how it happened and also for how long, all I have to say here is your father and yourself are very wicked and evil by making him go through all these wahala, you are busy producing babies and Ola is busy spending his hard earn money by paying bills and training them thinking that he has three kids, may God have mercy on you. And as Ola please take heart bcs it’s one we are bound to see in life.

  101. With God all things are possible, our God is a merciful and compassionate God, if she truelly repented and never go back to that act, God will surely forgive her, on the other hand, she needs to make peace with her husband because keeping the secret will keep on hunting her, as much as she lives.

    • Actually you can still trace your self back to God, Your father is never your enemy ,he loves you so much and got addicted to that closeness,but was unable to brake up and terminate his relationship with you. This I called separation problem. YOU HAVE NO BEAUTIFUL EXPLANATION FOR YOUR HUSBAND, SO THEREFORE DON’T EVER TELL HIM ANYTHING OR ELSE YOU WANT TO KILL HIM AND CONTINUE WITH YOUR DAD. Separate from your Dad, cut off from seeing him and asked God to forgive you. Period. Then show your husband a wonderful love.

  102. Do you actually know your mother?Have you met her for once?Cos in my opinion,your so called father is not your biological father since your mum left when you are 4yrs.

    Haven made that submission,I think you can engage your husband in such discussion but making reference to someone else and ask of his opinion on such episode and watch his reactions and comments on such issue,from there you will know if you are going to survive it or not.But if it seems impossible,just call upon your pastor to come in.

  103. If you have genuinely repented and made peace with God, is the best step you have taken. There are things better not said because of the ripple effect it will have, not just on your husband, but your kids/his family members and people around you. Allow God to guide you and follow it.

  104. Mmadu Amaka Maryrose.
    Mmadu Amaka Maryrose.

    My dear, truely this is a demonic attempt. May be you consult firstly, the elders in your town/village both your parternal and maternal home so that some ritual rites will be carried out and then steps be taken in your place of worship.😭😭😭

  105. Javan odhiambo MC otieno
    Javan odhiambo MC otieno

    My sister needs first to go on her knees ask for forgiveness and the strengthening of her faith and a christian heart of the husband and then approach the husband.

  106. Rita if you want to repent, open up to your husband.

  107. You are wicked , and bible said that the wicked shall perish … Rita or what ever you called your self . You are a big fool , you will have to die oh
    Yes na , you will have to confess to your husband after that , you go and kill your Dad after killing him , you kill your self .

    That’s my own advice and it’s for your own good .. how can you keep a secret for up to 17 yrs. Please if anything should happen to your husband , an innocent man because of your stupid atrocities you will bear the consiquence .. idiot , I hate nonsense

  108. Only God can help u, not we sinner like u. But if to say u are not enjoying this bad deportment, u would have been refused this to ur biological dad even before u got married. But u didn’t do so, instead of dat u are still having sexual intercourse with dat black sheep u are calling ur biological father. Nawa o. Anyway. U have to confess to ur husband to seek for his forgiveness. And let me tell u d truth. Dat man may not be ur father. Bcos ur real father can not be having sex with u. He might had been overheard about ur born. May b ur mother born u for another man and this man that is having sex with u doesn’t want his own to b vanity. So, u have to call ur mother and ask her to tell u d truth of ur birth.

  109. It is quite encouraging that you’ve opened up particularly to God than any human being having it in mind that forgiveness is accorded by God. I find it awkward for anyone thinking of the children to suggest that you tell their father. His reaction from any angle will adversely affect the children to unrepairable heights. Repenting to God is supreme to that of anyone or anything else and His forgiveness is more than enough. The children are already there and talking about them will only worsen issues. This should be a secret between you and God.

  110. I thank God you acknowledged that you have sinned , just repent completely for God to forgive you.Note,but your husband is the biological father of your children because he married you for life and for better for word,never you mention such thing to him but you can confess to him that your father had carnal knowledge of you when were growing up.start avoiding your father and behave as If you were drunk like that girl in the Bible that drugged her father to have sex him.then pray to God for forgiveness. Thanks

  111. You sinned against God and your husband. Now that God has talked to you, go to God with a sincere heart in prayer of repentance, our God is a God of great mercy, he’ll forgive you and receive you back as his daughter. Man may not forgive you but as long as you receive God’s forgiveness, keep this to your heart until the right time comes. Cut off the sinful relationship with your father and share with him that good news of God talking to you even about this issue. Develop a personal relationship with your God and pray upon the holy spirit guidance in your life now and onwards in order to defeat continued Satan’s convictions. I keep you in my prayers.

  112. You can’t be too sure of the true paternity of those children if you slept with both your Dad and husband concurrently; quit this guilt, avoid further incest, make peace with your Saviour and move on. Don’t blackmail your self by confessing to any pastor; non of them died for you.

  113. That is the worst thing to happen, your dad ruined your life but with God there is always hope. My advise is get saved, repent to God and live your life as it is without telling your husband or the children, imagine what this will do to all those people, how will the kids handle that having known your hubby as their dad, stop ruining those kids and your hubby. It’s better they stay in the dark and live happily that knowing the truth and live miserably……. Deal with your own sins secretly but once you get God’s forgiveness that is, be happy with your family and shut your dad out of your life completely

  114. Thank God you have realised your wrong doing. Ask God and God alone for forgiveness. Let what happened in the dark remain in the dark. Don’t tell your Husband it’s not necessary.

  115. Rita my sister, there is no sin that God can’t forgive. You have regreted your evil past and be assured of Gods mercy. I just request you not to tell your husband about it otherwise you will break his heart and yours. Move on with your husband and children. Never again sin with your father. God has forgiven you ,let no person condemn you. God loves you.

  116. This promiscuous act which your father is to blame! He would have guided you as a father- mother. It happened in the old testament but God assumed as though did not happen.Now it is incest, go to God with your father for total repentance and forgiveness without any Revelation to your husband and pay a dear offering as a sacrifice, monetary.Do not repeat the gravious obscene and read 2 Corinthians 5:17 to live by it.Remain a child of God till His Advent. Never regret and recall on the past as you embark on reading the Bible texts especially David’s best book- Psalms and job28:28.The most difficult thing God is defeated to do is how He can assume forgiving a sinner!Isaiah 1:18.Control the body not vice versa.Any being goes by impulse has no place in heaven …Forget the past, stoop for the present and future and dedicate the children to love God, that the revisitation of the parent spirit never recur as it is revealed in the third commandment of God in Exodus 20: 1up to the end.He revisits the iniquity of the parents to the fourth generations.God forbid.

  117. Hebrew13:5, He will never forsake you Rita—Since you have confess and repent of your sin and transgressions– Go on fasting and prayer ask God to teach and show you the perfect way of opening up your secret to your beloved husband dear—-nobody is above temptation,mistake and everybody,every families also have their own unbearable secrets—-Thank You for sharing—May God almighty bless and comfort you.

  118. This is the highest level of fiction, the writer is a blogger who is seeking to have more followers/ audience to her blogging business to make more money. We are here sympathizing with her that she and her father have sinned, actually it is a sinful act if it’s in reality, but who hasn’t sinned against God, let the person go and throw the first stone on them mind you no sin is small in the sight of God. In otherwords ,assuming without conceding that it’s true, if she confesses publicly some targeted persons might be poised to commit suicide because of shame and depression as a result of that confession like the husband, or any of the children, so what’s the economic value of that act. Personally, if the storyline is true, the best bet is to stop that unwholesome relationship entirely and confess inwardly to God who knoweth the heart of man that is deceitful. The blogger claimed that they would’ve been caught pants down by her husband, so why weren’t they caught and are they staying under one roof they the dad always have intercourse with her daughter whenever she’s ovulating for three consecutive times to produce three different kids for 17 years. God bless us for reading to ease away stress.

  119. Well madam God has forgiven you but if you tell your husband he will, feel the greatest pain of his life you didn’t distroy your life, but you distroy your husband heart but is okay keep it secret for the sake of your husband heart and then allow your husband enjoy sex*ual pleasure from you don’t stop him even if you don’t want it, I no whenever you see your husband your heart beats but, try and calm down keep it secret so you won’t hurt him, avoid your father. Let the secret be between you and God don’t cry to say anything to anyone don’t post it again don’t tell your pastor tell only God, Jesus will keep it secret for you I trust him he did it for me

  120. Please turn back to your husband in peace and repent to God

  121. You have been told already to repent and stop the act with your father, infact abhor him completely. Having said that,my concern too is the paternity of the children. You can’t confirm that your father is the father of your children when a paternity test hasn’t been conducted, except you have confirmed through competent medical test that your husband wouldn’t be able to father a child. Otherwise, that is not a valid conclusion of the matter. So I advise you to first of all ask your husband to go for DNA test to determine the paternity of those children then with the outcome of the test you’ll have a more constructive confession to end the matter for good.

  122. The deed is done and so in my own candid opinion, ma’am let this whole sordid incident remains a secret forever between you and your maker – God Almighty. Because if you divulge this sacrilegious secret to your husband it may lead to casualty. Your husband can do and undo; he may commit attrocity(ies) you can comprehend. He could go to the extent of taking his own life and worst still, even harm you as a person. It’s not an easy thing to let go. So in a nutshell, just repent fully with the whole of your heart and believe in God that you have been forgiven and move on with your life.

  123. Patrick wobusobozi
    Patrick wobusobozi

    Thanks be to the most high because you r saving your soul earlier. May you please continue confessing to God. All sins r equal even those sending abusive comments are singing like you did. Care less about your husband’s next outcome but heavenly desires may the Lord continue strengthening you.

  124. Agreed that u av sin against God and ur children, and not ur husband,becus u and ur dad av been having this b4 u get married to him,so pls ask God to forgive u becus his God time to forgive u that make him to direct u to that church and let u realized that s a sin,and try to open up to ur husband its had oooo to say,but u need to take a pastor with u OK,and if ur husband said no,then u live him and move on,becus d bible say by fonication a husband and wife can live there self,if d husband can hold it,so just make sure u confess and u shall be safe and bless again,God bless u my dear

  125. My dear, the deed has been done, but u have to go for a DNA test to be sure it’s ur dad’s bc surely one day the truth will be known. Just keep d secret.

  126. What did u mean by mistake she knows what she was doing that was the reason she refused to tell her husband

  127. Ask God for forgiveness first…..

  128. This is fiction guys!

  129. My sister, all sins are punishable by God, both the liar, murderer and adulterer of any kind. However, there is Mercy with God when we confess our sins and forsake them. Jesus is the only answer to all challenges of life. Surrender your life totally to Jesus. His blood still makes the foulest clean. The sin you committed is not the first in human history. When Jesus forgives, He heals and He can heal your family. When He heals, confession and restitution will no longer be a difficult task because He has given you a new heart that wants to please God.
    As you genuinely repent, may you find Mercy with God and with Men in Jesus name. Amen.
    Assistant Pastor Oge.

  130. U are a very big fool

  131. You are the most foolish human being I have seen what will you tell your kids this is a taboo May For Almighty forgive you

    • It’s the issue with ungodliness. If you had been sincerely worshipping God from the beginning or if the family had been sincerely worshipping God, your father could not have been used to defile you. Make confessions & be forgiven.

  132. Dont look in the past what is gone is gone it is between you and God to know the truth. Repend and never allow your past to haunt you. Let your husband live in peace, you might start on something you will regret. Anger is not measured and qe dont kniw how your husband will take it. Life goes on. Deny your dad anymore and satisfy your husband

  133. Don’t ever tell your husband rather go and confront your father and put a stop to that evil, repent fully,God will see through and restore joy in your home
    Note: don’t ever tell anyone about it because once anyone hears it your marriage is broke,confess your sin to God and don’t go back to it
    Note: it’s a secret only you will leave with till death if you love your marriage
    Be wise.
    God bless,help and strengthen you to face the problem
    I will pray for you too

  134. I have read some comments of others. Confessing to God alone is not enough. Your sin is great. Remember the prodigal son, when he regained his sences, he was remouceful not only to God but went to his father to seek his forgiveness and acceptance. My suggestions are: (1) that the game with your father stop forthwith. That is the first step for God’s forgiveness, for there is no way God will forgive you if the sin continues. (2) embark on 21 days fasting and praying, eating once a day, so as to seek God’s forgiveness. There after, seek an honest man of God, tell him the full story and he will lead you to your husband for his forgiveness and acceptance. Your husband must know the truth for you to obtain full forgiveness from God. Your father needs same measure of fasting and praying for God’s forgiveness and mercy.

  135. Please repent and stop the relationship with your father and God will forgive you but don’t tell your husband because if you do they you want to kill the innocent man.

  136. The deed has been done, just forgive after seeking for forgiveness from God. And carry on. Sin no more. However don’t tell your husband cause he may not able to handle It. Keep to yourself and sparkup in life

  137. Confessing to God alone is not enough. Remember the prodigal son when he got to his sences, he was remorseful not only to God but went to his father to seek for his forgiveness and acceptance.. Your sin is great and need proper approach to obtain full forgiveness. My advice is as follows: (1) the game between you and your father has to stop forthwith, for there is no way God will forgive you if it continues.(2) embark on 21 days fasting and praying, eating once a day for God’s forgiveness. (3) seek for an honest man of God and tell him the full story and he will lead you to your husband for his forgiveness and acceptance; for your husband must know what happened for you to obtain full forgiveness. (4) Your father needs to embark on same measure of fasting and praying. For God to forgive his atrocity. May God in his infinity mercy help and direct your steps. True confirmation leads to true forgiveness.

  138. Confess to God and your sins shall be forgiven. As for your husband forgiving you, pray earnestly for God to soften his heart when you reveal this secret to him, otherwise he may likely divorce you. As for your father, the revelation of this secret may put him at the risk of going to jail, because incest is criminal offence under the Nigerian laws. I pray that God directs you on the best path to follow.

  139. For God to forgive you tell him because it’s too sinful for your husband to share his wife with his father-in-law u shouldn’t have married at all.

  140. In the books of Act chapter 17:30. The Bible says, Truly, these times of ignorance God overlooked, but now commands all men everywhere to repent,

    When you and your Father are having an affair together is a time of ignorance of your part in which I have to asure you that God will forgive you and I must confess your father is guilty of this sin because he cannot denied of luring you into this sin.

    My dear this is what you should do repent of this sin, don’t involve in sexual intercourse with your father anymore, tell him that the act is a sin that will lead both of you into hell of fire and you are not interested in the act anymore and besides he should repent otherwise you will disown him as your father.

    Get in touch with your father to conduct a deliverance for you so that the spirit of immortality will depart from you.

    Believe me God will forgive you as long as you have decided to repent from your sinful lifestyle to serve the Lord.

    Thank you and God bless you

  141. I congratulate you for coming to your sense and opening up about the rot of incest. As a believer, I think you should set things right with God and Man, and you can still live a different, acceptable life.
    Sexual sin is sin against your own self. Though you can receive forgiveness, be prepared to live with the unpleasant consequences of the sin.
    1. The possibility of losing your marriage is real.
    2. The children may not accept your father as both their grandfather and dad at the same time.
    3. You should prepare to be a single mom, far away from your dad.
    Above all, believe in God and work hard for a living. God will be a father to you All.

  142. Woman you errored and sinned before God. We are not here to condemn you neither to judge for God himself is the rightous judge. Very happy with you for coming to your sense. Non is on is clean and without blemish before the eyes of the heavenly Father. He is merciful and does not want one to die in sins. Just find time lock up yourself into a room and offer a repentance prayer to our forgiving God in heaven. Dont listen to destructive statements. No sin is bigger enough that cannot be forgiven by God. Please pray dont loose hope.

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