A lady seeks advice due to the problem she is facing with her husband. According to the lady, She said her husband has only slept with her five times since they’ve been married. Now she’s confused and don’t know what to do. Here is what she said below;
Please conceal my identity. I got married in 2017, got pregnant and had my baby in 2018. During the pregnancy, my husband I can recall my husband slept with me only 5 times. Any time I make the move, he pushes me aside.
He will go to work, come home, goes out again and come back late at midnight very tired and exhausted. I always wake up at dawn watch him deeply asleep. Anytime I raise the issue about his coming home late, he will only apologize and still continue.
I had to undergo Caesarean Section (Operation) because the doctor says I’m perfectly fine but because I am too close. The midwife was very upset and even asked me? Whether my husband has been having s*x with me?
I wept because I was so ashamed to answer the question. This is a man I dated for 9 to 10 years before marriage. Before the marriage, I had a message that, he’s not my husband.
When I told our counselor about the message, she told me he will change after marriage. But it became even worse. After I had my baby, I was wasn’t paid for 4months maternity leave, and anytime I ask for money, he gets angry cause he wasn’t working then.
So, I suggested we share the contribution we had during the marriage event.. He got angry, that, I can even take all if I want, That if anything happens to me, he won’t mind me. I waited for some months, still I was out of money, I prayed over the money and I used it. I even use that money for diapers, even to cook for him.
He said, if I don’t want to destroy my marriage I should bring the money back, if not I should use it. I divided the money and gave him the half he refused to take it saying he doesn’t need the money.
He will come back from work and then leave the house again leaving me with the baby all by ourselves and come home late at midnight. I told him to take his key along when he’s going out because he leaves the door open whilst my baby and myself are fast asleep.
Something will wake me up at dawn to lock the door, then in an hour time, he will come back knocking and mentioning my name that dawn. I realized that my life and that of the little baby is at risk so I decided to pack out.
The fateful day I pack out, he was looking at me quietly and the following day, I came to pick somethings I left behind only to realize that, he changed the door lock the very day I left.
It’s over a year now, since I left. He never sent money for the baby. I survive by God’s Grace. He called recently I was so angry that, I told him the boy is not his son, considering how he never cared not even for his son.
He called his family members and told them I said he’s not the father of my son. And they all believed him. The counselor told him that, I said that out of anger, so he should exercise restraint, but he still stands on his ground that I should go and give him to his Father. Our counselor suggested he do a DNA to prove it. He says no.
Please advice me. Thank you.
What advice do you have for this lady concerning the issue between her and her husband? Drop your comments.