Texting is what we all do every single day, especially when we are in the early stages of getting to know a special someone.
But, are you texting the right things or you’re just wasting your data, time and energy and chasing the potential bae away while at it? There are some things you shouldn’t be doing when texting your crush and you’ll get to know them all in this article. Below are the things you must not do when texting;
1. Your Messaging is Less Emotional and More Factual
This means ou’re trying to get to know the guy but you make it sound like it’s a job interview over text. For instance, there’s a difference between asking a guy “What do you do?” and “What’s the most fun part about your job?” the former is plain and boring while the second allows him to open up about something he actually loves and people love to talk about their achievements or things they’re passionate about.
2. Being Impatient
If you have messaged him, he has certainly seen your message! Will he forget to respond? Sure. There are plethora of reasons why he may not respond immediately but double texting will only make you look desperate. Give him some time to respond before double texting and even calling. You need to show him that you have your own life and things going on for yourself.
3. You’re Boring and Cliche When You Message
“Hi” “What are you up to?” erm…chances are, you will not get a genius response like “I’m in the middle of discovering why the dick gets a boner on its own sometimes” no. So, get great conversation topics. You could talk about things the guy likes to do or topics on restaurants, activities to do, as you anticipate on your next date and what you can actually get up to the next time you link up.
4. Bad Grammar
Some people are really ticked off by the use of bad grammar. As petty as it may sound, there are men who will cut all communication because you butchered the Queen’s language. I don’t understand the essence of writing ‘hae’ for instance, when you can just type hi…
5. Sharing Way Too Much Info
“What are you up to this weekend beautiful?” And your response is a whole encyclopedia on how you will meet with a friend of yours called Alice for lunch, do ABC head over to bla bla bla, yada yada and all that shebang. That’s TMI that absolutely no one gives a rat’s ass about. Moreover, it’s really boring to read super long messages.
“How’s your day unfolding at work on this beautiful Tuesday morning?” And you reply “I really hate my job. I feel so lifeless.” That will in no way help the situation. No one wants to be with someone who spreads negative vibes.
7. Not Differentiating Yourself From The Rest
So, let’s assume you met this guy on an online dating app. Chances are, he’s chatting up several other women. How will you set yourself apart from the rest? Your texts needs to make him smile, make his day or make him think ‘wow she’s really interesting’ you need to make him long to see you soon and you will not do that with cliché texts. There’s nothing as soul sucking as boring text conversations.